I'm new to this, and it is hard to find a decent woman who can remain faithful because I have an ileostomy and find it repulsive. I have a wonderful personality and a decent self-image of myself. I may have an ostomy bag, but I'm still self-confident and don't see myself any differently than a normal healthy person. I'm a hard worker and would like to find a woman who wants the same.
nighthawksecurities
Dec 22, 2013 6:05 am
Ewesful
Dec 22, 2013 7:29 pm
I just wanted to say that living alone and dealing with a very committed life of helping others has never left me wishing I had a mate that would even think twice about the ostomy. I am so thankful to be alive and able to function. Dating issues will happen if they are supposed to - As for meeting real people (those that are not two-faced in their manner) - there are plenty of places to find them. As you get started on doing volunteer work, you will find all kinds of awesome people - the reason, as far as I see it, is that they are the type of people who really care.
I wish you a very wonderful life ahead and don't fret the small stuff! An ostomy is a badge of happiness over the alternative lifestyle--- God bless and enjoy!
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China2011
Dec 23, 2013 3:08 am
I can't agree more with what Ewesful has said. It is a wonderful thing if there is someone in our life who is committed and loves us for who we are. I too have a bag and have gone on two dates. Not that I am looking for a serious relationship at all, but both of my dates did not mind my bag issue and we had a good time dining and enjoying the company.
What I have learned in the 2+ years with the bag is that I must be at peace with it; whether others find it ugly or unattractive really doesn't matter. You still have your fantastic personality and a job to do, which is already a blessing.
Wishing you a great holiday season!
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ck8
Jan 05, 2014 12:09 pm
Hi, I am new to this site, in fact, to any sites of this type. I agree with all of you regarding relationships. I find it hard to accept and adapt to the bag, and I have had counseling, but it did not help at all. My wife, with whom I don't communicate, does not understand or appreciate what I have been through. Sometimes I long for someone who understands my predicament or shares my experience.