I walked into the emergency room, the next morning I woke up with a bag. It pretty much finished many things. I went into a deep depression, but eventually the pain turns into wisdom. There is a way to lead a full life, and date, and travel, and do everything. Must absolutely know your digestion, everything about it; what goes in, what comes out, how and when. You need to have the perfect appliance, and that takes time. I lead a full life but took years; had I known then what I know now, I would have dealt with this in a much better fashion, experience matters. Last, this is not a communicative disease, or leprosy, or anything contagious, or horrible. It is nature. So, you don't have to tell anyone anything, at any point, until you decide it is time to do so, and would give the person time to know you first, and you need to achieve that level of confidence. I decide when and whom, and why, and it is because I feel as normal as anyone else. I no longer think about it or pay attention to it much during the day; I forget. All kinds of clothing products like ostomy secrets, a shirt on, done, for all occasions. All this takes time, but you will get there, and after reading your post, knowing that this happened just a few months ago, I'd say you are doing great, considering the circumstances, all this will come in time. Good luck.