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Happy Monday Fellow Ostomates. I originally created my profile on this site several years ago and from time to time I would check in but as I was unable to leave my home due to the particular nature of my physical issues, I never followed up. For the past three years I have been completely housebound as a result of my colon twisting (with no previous symptoms or warning) and having gone septic exactly three years ago, my entire colon was removed surgically within three hours. While in CCU, a life altering medical error was made leaving me rectally incontinent. It took three years, and many frustrated gastroenterologists in Toronto and surrounding area before two specialists at St. Michael's Hospital did not give up on me and found the error that had dictated and controlled my life. So to those two doctors I owe my future and the fact that I will again have the opportunity to live a new normal life. On May 2, 2017 I had an ileostomy. That surgery has enabled me to get back out into the world I had missed for three years. I missed seeing people, working, enjoying my two grown sons and their wives, going for a walk and just basic human interaction. My close family and friends understood my extreme limitations and as much as possible brought the world in to me knowing how I struggled with loneliness and isolation. To them I will be forever grateful. I still struggle with loneliness as I try to build a new life living with an ileostomy and the learning curve and changes that I am encountering with thankfulness. I still have a lot to learn in this area and am learning to be patient and realistic with my body.

I have been divorced since 2005 and have lived alone since then (with my cat). I guess basically I am looking for that someone special who I can talk to about the things that really matter in life, share new experiences and make new memories with. I don't know if that person is out there, but if you are, hopefully and perhaps one day we will meet and become friends first and see if there is a path ahead that we are meant to travel along together. I believe that we can carry the hurts we have felt without letting them rule and dominate who we are today. What we all have been through, individually, can help us build strength and compassion. No two journeys are the same and our lives can begin anew while we carry our memories and the lessons that we have each learned. I am 5'3", brown hair, small boned and fairly thin. I will work on uploading a photo of myself. Wishing you peace on your journey and thank you for taking the time to read my profile.
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