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After trying to find a "cure" for my Ulcerative Colitis (diagnosed 2008), I had a permanent proctocolectomy with end ileostomy performed August 2017.

I am a member of the Reno, Nevada chapter of UOAA support group (ROA), and am its most recent Newsletter editor.

Having learned about through the ROA, I have read many heartening, heartbreaking and hopeful posts by other ostomates, and would like to join this resilient group of people in the hopes of networking, learning, teaching - as we all have something to offer.

Like so many people, I am working on self-love & -improvement. As an ostomate of over 3 years, I still have days working on self-acceptance and -esteem, and coming to terms with my "new & improved" physiology and functions. Ultimately, I would like to meet a man - either an ostomate or someone sympathetic to ostomate issues - for a respectful and loving long-term relationship.

9/26/20 Update: Hi! Told some friends this morning about, and all of the wonderful people sharing thoughts, ideas, concerns, tips and experiences on it - the good, the bad and the ugly. Having had time to think a bit more about the kind of relationship I would like, I told them, "...I want a romance with my best friend." To that end, better than telling this to my friends is telling others on this site. : )

A career receptionist in the construction industry, I have a deep appreciation for mathematics, physics and the mysteries of the Universe. It's only been within the last 10 years or so that I have actually begun to embrace my inner geek. ; )

My interests include: cooking flavorful food, travel in general - and road trips with a great variety of music playing on the stereo, historic architecture, watching NHL hockey, good-natured philosophical/intellectual debates, wordplay & puns, comfortable silences, treasure hunting (Fenn's was found, darn it!), Maine Coon cats, stargazing away from city lights, reading, and figuring out what I want to be "when I grow up".

I would love to learn how to play on a set of drums; I have a cunga, and it's been a long time since I've sat in a drumming circle. And although we're currently living in an age of social distancing, I hope to meet a gentleman also interested in learning how to dance a country two-step, and who doesn't mind that I sometimes sing with the music - off-key. : )

Having a sense of (warped) humor, an open mind (but not so much that your brains fall out!) and a heart ready to love and be loved, are pluses.

And, I believe anything is possible with a willing heart. Be well~
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