Interesting and strange? Well, it *is* the Sex portion of the forum...
Did my kinks cause my ruptured bowel? It's a decent question, and one that's come up in a few venues. What's the adage? There's no problem so bad a little guilt won't make it worse? My surgeon and primary physician knew about my masochism, and neither of them seemed to think it mattered, but maybe they dismissed it too readily.
Direct physical damage could be the culprit for colon damage, but the bowel rupture I experienced was in the sigmoid colon and involved an inflamed diverticula. I suppose it's not flat-out impossible for an extreme S&M scene (with a large inserted item, say) to get that far inside the body, but it strikes me as unlikely.
Physical stress might be involved. Certainly, during a scene I'm apt to tense my muscles -- but no more than a bodybuilder would, and for less time. If a rise in blood pressure and physical stress were responsible for my ruptured bowel, it could happen to anybody -- or it could happen to me, but not at all in relation to a bdsm scene.
Why would I want to share the information? Because I went looking for information, and I didn't find it. I doubt that I'm the only person with a kink and a stoma. Somebody on this forum might have been down this road already, but didn't say anything about it because she or he feared backlash. Or somebody else might run into this problem and seek answers, and maybe this will help them.
Given that most folk here suffered this through no fault of their own...well, that's still only *most folk* and not *all folk.* Does the small population of deserving ostomates somehow offend or marginalize the large population of those afflicted at random? I doubt it. Should those of us who do (or might) share some personal blame for our conditions slink off silently into the lurkers' corner? I don't think so.
Even assuming that I suffered a ruptured bowel by using a Bowel Blaster 9000 (tm), so that I was beyond doubt directly responsible for my own damage, so what? We all make mistakes, and we learn from them. I'm hardly likely to use it again, nor am I apt to shut down masochism in my life; I'd need to find a safe way forward.
These lifestyles were kept underground for so many years for a reason, yes. But it's hardly a good and defensible reason.