Thank you very much for answering, this is very helpful.
He has discussed it with his surgeon which is supposed to be one fo the leading ones in Canada and we did not really get any conclusive info, she said it may be due to scar tissue, there is some scar tissue in there but they don't consider it enough of an issue to to anything about it. Of course, more surgery is not an option, it terrifies us.
-no one ever said anything about strictures and we did not know to ask about it, will do so.
-there are issues with motility, we looked to IVF to have our 2 babies.
-He does not take any medication and does not take stool softeners on a regular basis at all. He only takes them if he feels he needs it because they give him a stomache ache as well. He never takes medication of any kind as some of them cause the blockages, IE, decongestant put him in the ER one time. One time it was cold medecine, he won't take anything, not even a tylenol.
-He will not do anything dietary to soften the stool. His method is essentially to ignore and deny until he is in the hospital. He does a avoid a lot of foods but does not eat anything special to promote softer stool. I beg him to drink water but of course, most days he does not drink enough.
-I don't think it is the stoma
The thing is the blockage is often a kink in the bowel and I think what causes it most often is stress and exhaustion, both mental and physical. It makes the blockages so very hard to control. The things that have put him in the hospital previously was stuff like
-job stress, working long hours and traveling.
-having a baby, he was in the hospital 2 days before the labour
-getting dehydrated after a gold game or going to the zoo
-the first year of our baby's life, being woken a lot at night
-moving houses, having to stay up late and pack
its really frustrating because he is this strong looking, young guy and people just don't know and forget his limitations. So does he. Everyone including him thinks its no problem to help someone move for instance and then the next day, hospital.
When we moved he had to do some of the physical labour himself and then the next day hospital and I had to do the move by myself.
This is where a lot of my stress and anxiety comes in, the fact that these life situations are difficult to predict and avoid and the consequences are always immediate.
Thank you so much for the advice. I am going to try to get him to see someone.