Its probably easier being a guy with an ostomy than a woman with one. I figure men are just more shallow than woman. I could be wrong, as I've never dated a man
What I've found is that modern dating is definitely a benefit for those with ostomies. With the Internet and then eventually phone, you can meet people and get to really know them before ever meeting in person. You can spend hours every night texting/chating to this person and then when things feel right, you can bring up the ostomy. Hard to hide it when sending erotic photos (just kidding). I've been somewhat fortunate in that I've dated woman that are nurses, pharmacy technicians x 2 , social worker, personal support worker, etc. All these type of woman either have had first hand experience with an ostomy or at least have an understanding of the medications I take for my Crohn's Disease. I've never had a woman reject me in any way because of my ostomy. I am the biggest hurdle to myself, as getting the ostomy did nothing good for my self confidence.
If you have a less active lifestyle, as I do, just be honest in your dating profiles. I too mentioned my enjoyment for movies and relaxing in my home on the weekends. I make it clear that if those reading my profile are looking for an adreniline junky, not to look at me. I was somewhat careful in how I would word things, as it almost sounds like I am looking for a lazy overweigh person. I still maintain a 42.5 hour work week, own a home and car, so I do what is necessary to get by in life, but at a cost. Working and commuting can suck the energy out of my "half full" cup I start with and thus the reason I enjoy relaxing on my time off. I've got a giant library of movies ...don't judge me as not all movies were got for me over the years, many were for the woman in my life at the time and their kids. Mary-Kate and Ashley are not my choice!
Anyways, if you do wanna talk about the joys of being a front pooper and single, get in touch with me. I lack full membership also and I guess forum rules prevent one from posting any contact info here. But, it doesn't prevent you from posting websites and then using a little bit if looking to find ways to communicate!
(my cats pics and my bookmarks website)