i dont think upon initially meeting someone that you have to tell them that you have an ostomy,i think you should treat it as friendship for the first few weeks to month and just let them get to know you,and your personality,act confident,and do not put yourself down thinking you are lucky to have met someone,they are lucky to have met you,let them get to know you,if they bring up sex you tell them your not that type of woman/man to just sleep with someone from the get go,it shows them you have respect for yourself,if you sense that they really like you,and you are feeling it too,then you can tell them,in all honesty if their reaction is negative then thank god you found that out now and not later,you dont need to tell the opposite sex straight away about your ostomy bag anymore than they need to tell you about their atheletes foot,body odour or erectile dysfunction,just get to know them first and then you can judge when the time is right to tell them,before you tell them start off with the history of how your illness came about and show them what a strong person you are,then lastly on the conversation tell them about your bag,if a person can see that you cope well and mange your illness then they can see that they can too,you will meet frogs on the way,ive met my fair share,but there is people out there that have life experiance and are compassionate and understanding xxx