Well, I'm returning to work next week. Physically, I'm in wonderful shape considering the surgery. I'm cancer-free. My son is doing well; he's finishing his classes and getting his certificates in February. My niece has moved in and has been a blessing the last several months. Both friends and family have been here for me. I've had so much support, and here I am feeling sorry for myself. I should be ashamed. I dwell on a fizzled romance like a silly teenager, and I picture my wife looking down on me, shaking her head in wonder. Please don't misunderstand. I too must shake my head in wonder. In my condition, I'm certainly not going to be considered as an intimate, and that is what's causing my heartache. How shallow of me. I honestly don't want to be alone for the remainder of my life, and I'm dreading that prospect. I ponder who would be with me now and why. Can I expect a degree of intimacy, and is that realistic? Isn't that silly? This is what I concern myself with. I have so many good things happening in my life, and all that concerns me is that women will reject me, and I'll be alone. For crying out loud! I've been given literally decades of extra life. Somebody talk some sense and explain to me if and how I can get past this. Thanks for reading and letting me express my anxieties. Any and all comments will be appreciated.

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