Hi Nina,
I'm so glad you got a chance to go out and feel beautiful because you are!! I'm sorry you didn't get a chance to dance but you will soon. You will adjust to having the pouch in no time, I'm sure.
I'm not sure what kind of pouch system you use (1 piece or 2), but here are a couple of things I've learned over the years as an ileostomate.
As an ileostomate, it takes about 5-6 hours from the time you eat to get to the stoma. Everyone is different depending on how food or drink affects their body. You will eventually get your own schedule down but having an idea of when you think your stoma will start voiding can help you plan around going out.
Avoid carbonated beverages as they will produce a lot of gas, as will sipping through a straw. I know when I drink soda or beer, it can create the balloon effect after a couple of hours but eventually, you don't worry about it so much. At least I don't, I guess because I'm so used to it.
Avoid chewing gum. As with chewing gum, you swallow a lot of air and don't even know it.
If you eat food that produces a lot of gas like beans, for instance, you can always pop a Gas-X or use Beano in the food to eliminate the gas.
If you use a drainable pouch, try wearing 2 clips instead of 1 just in case one of them fails. I learned that the hard way.
Check out
www.ostomysecrets.com and see if there are any items there that will boost your confidence.
And finally, depending on the pouch system you use (I use a one-piece drainable pouch), you can always go to the restroom and empty it. You don't have to rinse the bag out, but some people do. I know restrooms at some places aren't the most sanitary in the world, but you can always carry a small bottle of hand sanitizer with you. Whenever I empty my pouch, I lay my hand flat over the stoma and fold the pouch over my hand as to get as much air out of the pouch as possible.
Again, these are just things I've noticed since I've been an ostomate. But just remember. No one is looking to see if you have an ostomy. Most people aren't going to know you have an ostomy unless you tell them about it. Be confident and live like there's no tomorrow. You seem to have a strong personality, so I'm sure you're going to adjust just fine. I'm sure plenty of folks here are going to chime in as well. Let me know if you have any questions.
Bain