Hi. I am new on here. I have been plucking up courage for months, so here goes. I had my colostomy stoma bag fitted 9 years ago. My then husband helped me deal with it and was very kind when I had problems with leakage, etc. Sex was not a big issue - we just got on with it. I wore a costume at first so he did not see the bag. We separated some time ago (not because of the stoma). We had been married for 30 years and just became fed up with each other. A few months ago, I met an old flame who I had not seen for years. The chemistry struck again. He was always a sexy man and he was a good lover. My worry is that he is unaware of my stoma, but at the same time, I don't want to finish with him because of it causing embarrassment to both of us. I hope I have made my predicament clear enough, and I hope someone out there will understand. Any advice would be very welcome. Thank you for reading this post.