This may seem like a strange question to be asking, but I've noticed that a majority of people with an ostomy that take part in forums like this one are just plain nasty. I've had my ostomy for 16 years and just once in a while I'll hop on a forum to see if there is someone who needs help or understanding about their health problems and every time I discover that most of the posts are dirty jokes, nasty language, and obscene suggestions. You would think that a physical problem of this sort would attract loving and caring people that are anxious to be helpful, but not so. It makes me ashamed to admit that I'm an ostomate. I hope I can keep it a secret.