Hi, I'm Dave. I'm 34 and a 'double bag lifer'. I was diagnosed with bladder cancer and due to complications during the operation to remove my bladder, I'm left with two permanent bags. I'm not one for letting things get me down and just four weeks after the operation, I was back at work. However, as fit as I feel, my head is all over the place. I don't know anyone my age going through anything similar. I've got one work friend who I talk to, but I think I'm even annoying her. How do I get through this? These bags are going to control the rest of my life. I hate what cancer has done to me and sometimes wish it had just taken me. Is it normal to feel like this? Has anyone else felt like this and got through it to lead a 'normal' life? Any help/suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks.x
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