This topic is about a woman who recently had colostomy surgery and is struggling with a loss of confidence and self-esteem. She is trying to adjust emotionally but finds it challenging because she feels isolated in her experience. She is seeking advice on how to cope and regain her emotional balance.

- Remember, you are not alone. There are many people who understand what you're going through and can offer support, practical tips, and share their experiences.
- Emotional acceptance happens in stages: shock, adjustment, acceptance, realizing it’s manageable, and finally embracing your new self. Take your time; it’s okay to have ups and downs.
- Try to see the surgery as life-saving. Your pouch and scars are signs of survival and can eventually be sources of pride or gratitude.
- Consider treating your stoma like a friend. Some people name it or find other ways to accept it, which can help with emotional adjustment.
- Physical scars will soften and fade over time, but emotional healing requires patience and active efforts like therapy, support groups, or reading others’ stories.
- Stay active. Physical activity, getting out of the house, and engaging in hobbies can help rebuild confidence and reduce overthinking.
- Explore talking therapy, peer support, mindfulness, or medication for anxiety or depression. Use whatever combination works best for you.
- Look through past discussions and ask questions, no matter how small. There’s a wealth of knowledge on products, routines, and solutions.
- Your family and friends might understand more than you think. Open conversations can help both you and them.
- Accept the situation as it is. Fighting reality can drain your energy, which could be better spent on living well.
- If you’re considering a reversal, weigh the stability and quality of life you have now against the uncertainties. Many people can share their experiences with reversals.
- Time is a healer. Many people feel much better six months, a year, or several years after surgery and return to their normal activities.
- When you feel self-critical, try to find something to be thankful for each day. Gratitude can help shift your perspective.