Topic Explanation
The discussion topic, "Overcoming the 'Ew' Factor in Intimate Moments," addresses concerns about how individuals with ostomies can manage the visibility and perception of their ostomy bags during intimate moments with a partner. The original poster expresses anxiety about a partner reacting negatively upon seeing the ostomy bag, which could potentially hinder their willingness to engage in dating and intimate activities.

Advice and Helpful Insights
1. Concealment Strategies:
- Use a wrap or a tummy sleeve to cover the ostomy bag during intimate moments. This can help in feeling more secure and less exposed.
- Consider wearing a tank top that can be adjusted to cover the ostomy during intimacy, providing a simple way to keep the bag concealed without fully dressing.
- Some participants suggested specific products like lace bands or wraps from Ostomy Secrets, or a Nu-Hope support belt, which can provide both concealment and support.

2. Communication and Acceptance:
- Openly communicating with your partner about the ostomy before becoming intimate is crucial. This approach helps manage expectations and reduces the anxiety of a potential negative reaction during intimate moments.
- Recognize that some people may not be comfortable with an ostomy, which is similar to any other personal preference or deal-breaker in relationships. The right partner will accept all aspects of you.

3. Self-Confidence and Perspective:
- It's often the individual with the ostomy who might feel more conscious or uncomfortable about the ostomy bag than the partner. Building self-confidence and focusing on the moment can alleviate some of the internalized stigma.
- If a partner reacts negatively, it's a reflection of their limitations, not your worth or desirability.

4. Practical Tips for Specific Situations:
- For those concerned about the ostomy bag during activities like swimming, choosing appropriate attire such as a swimsuit that resembles a shirt and shorts can help conceal the ostomy effectively.
- Explore specialized clothing and accessories designed for intimate moments, such as crotchless underwear and bodysuits from adult specialty stores, which can offer both appeal and practicality.

5. Emotional Support and Self-Acceptance:
- Engaging in forums and discussions with others who face similar challenges can provide emotional support and practical advice.
- Accepting one's body and condition is crucial for mental health and successful relationships. It's important