This topic is about dealing with the anxiety that can come with having an ostomy bag, especially when it comes to intimacy and dating. The person who started the discussion is worried about how a partner might react if they see the ostomy pouch during intimate moments. This concern has made dating feel daunting and has led to anxiety about future relationships. Here are some helpful tips and insights shared by others:

- To cover or conceal the pouch during intimacy:
1. Consider wearing an ostomy wrap, like those from Ostomy Secrets, or a standard wrap.
2. A tummy sleeve from a maternity store can also work well.
3. Keep a tank top on and slide it down to cover the pouch, clipping the bottom of the pouch upward to make it shorter.
4. Explore sexy alternatives like crotchless underwear or bodysuits from adult-product sites.
5. A support belt, such as the Nu-Hope 6-inch belt, can add security and reduce pouch movement.

- Start with open communication:
1. Talk to potential partners about the ostomy before becoming intimate to avoid surprises and to find supportive people.
2. Remember, a caring partner will accept you as you are.

- Build personal confidence:
1. Much of the discomfort comes from self-consciousness; feeling attractive and relaxed can help your partner feel the same.
2. Focus on body positions where neither person’s face is near the pouch.

- Practical tips to avoid accidents:
1. Wraps and belts can minimize the swinging weight and help prevent the pouch from loosening.
2. When ordering wraps, choose smaller or tighter sizes, often two sizes down, for firm support.

- Perspective and encouragement:
1. Understand that not everyone will be a match, with or without an ostomy, and that’s perfectly okay.
2. Long-term partners often report no issues and may even forget the pouch is there.
3. Don’t settle for anyone who shames you; you deserve someone who appreciates you just as you are.