This topic is about someone who feels a bit lonely and is looking to connect with others who have an ostomy. They want to find people who are open to chatting and sharing experiences. Here are some helpful suggestions and insights from others in the community:

1. Some members suggest exchanging direct email addresses for better communication, as the site's private messaging or instant-messenger features can be unreliable, especially for those who aren't subscribers.

2. The chat room on the site is often empty. Timing is crucial, as people tend to miss each other when they log in and out at different times.

3. The instant messenger on the site can sometimes freeze or not accept incoming messages. This seems to be a common issue, so it's likely a problem with the site itself.

4. Many people with ostomies gather on Facebook. Searching for ostomy-related pages and groups there can help you find a lively, real-time community.

5. Some members use "MEN messenger" (Microsoft/Windows Live Messenger) and are open to connecting through that platform.

6. A few users have already formed small networks outside the site and welcome newcomers to join them, emphasizing that the ostomy community is supportive and close-knit.