Ok, I've had enough. Since joining this site this past summer (or maybe it was the spring), I've read with my own two eyes at least 3 or 4 ostomates claim they've had INTIMATE sexual relations (with a fellow human being) and their partner was totally unaware of their ostomy. SAY WHAT??? So I need to know what the hell you're talking about. Unless you're talking about a hummer in the car in a bar parking lot on a Friday night.......or you consider phone sex to be intimate.....I have no idea how you guys can make such a claim. What exactly are you calling "intimacy" and is the other person alive and awake? Are they hog tied to the bed and blindfolded? Are we talking about making love to a blind double amputee? No? Then what gives........fess up!
This has been bugging me for a while and then someone brought it up again this week in the a current popular thread. So please explain in excrutiating detail, like you're talking to a 10 year old, how it's possible to have intimate sexual relations (hugging, caressing, rubbing, tickling, licking, etc) with someone and have them NOT know you have an ostomy? By all means feel free to PM me if you're shy or would rather everyone else not know your secret......and I promise not to tell, cross my heart/hope to die, etc. Wild monkey sex on the bear skin rug in front of the fireplace just hasn't been the same with my trusty poop bag by my side.........so let us all in on this one. (Or just me.)