Intimacy is always a difficult area for us ostomates. Here is how I handle it. Sometimes without my partner knowing that I have an ostomy. Number one. I bought one of those stretch weight or weight loss belts that Velcro together. Number two, I asked my doctor to write me a prescription for an antidiarrheal medicine. Get lots depending on anticipated sexual activity. For each 3-hour time that I want your stoma to be quiet, I take 5 pills. I start 6 hours BEFORE my date (5 pills, then three hours later 5 pills) to let the pills go into effect. Every three hours thereafter, take 5 more pills until my date is over. Everybody is different, so try, try again before... The weight belt covers my folded bag. I've had dates, short term, where my partner did not know that I had an ostomy. I just said that I had an operation on my intestines and had to take some pills regularly because of that and can you help me remember to take them? I also use this technique when traveling long distances without known facilities. Also for plane rides, weddings, funerals, (graveside can be a bitch) and special occasions. Note. The temporary stoppage may last longer than the hours you take the pills. (Maybe a day or so). To jump-start my system the next day, I take a mild, small amount of a laxative. Not necessarily a needed part of your routine. Caveat, each person's digestive tract is unique, so experiment with the number of pills YOU will need, not me, to quiet your stoma. If ANY of this helps you, please let me know.

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