I'm fairly new to this journey as well, my APR surgery was last October.
There are so many different products and opinions out there, it can be so confusing and overwhelming. I'm very fortunate to have amazing Ostomy nurses and with their guidance I was able to try different samples, from several different brands. But, as many people will tell you, it truly it's about what works for you personally, as each Stoma/Health issues are uniquely different. Moreover, of all the products I tested, settled for the brand Coloplast, specifically the "SenSura Mio" Two piece system, cut to fit, with a disposable bag. There's no going around cleaning feces, and in a very direct tangible way, with a reusable bag or disposable one, but I find the latter so much more practical and easy, it suits me, mainly because I don't have to deal with where I dump the output, i can change bags in my bedroom if I want to, the feces stays inside the disposable, I dump it into a small plastic trash bag Coloplast provides, clean the stoma and the barrier with baby wipes, put a new disposable bag on, done in 3 minutes tops! I change the barrier/wafer every 5 to 6 days.
Personally, my opinion, Coloplast products are of the highest quality, the "Sensura-Mío" system it's their newest line, the bags don't have that crunchy plastic sound when you move, the front and back of the bag are covered in a super soft, skin colored waterproof fabric, very stealth. The bags have the best air-filter in the market, it addresses gas output and keeps the bag from ballooning, the clip to secure the bag onto the barrier/wafer it's super reliable and sturdy, the Brava adhesive strips are second to none and allows me to keep the barrier/wafer on for 6 days, even though I shower daily, go to the Gym and I'm pretty active, yet never had any accidents like leaking, or the barrier coming unglued.
But, nothing it's perfect, and all brands/products have limitations and short comings, it's all about what you're willing to compromise for, and what your health insurance it's willing to pay for. However, most brands offer several different systems that includes the choice between a reusable or a disposable bag.
Call the three most recommended brands i.e Coloplast, Hollister, ConvaTec, talk to their Costumer Support agents, ask them questions and tell them about your particular situation and need, they will send you free samples of most everything, try them, then you can make an informed decision.
good luck! You got this buddy!!
Wow thank you you pretty much answered everything I was wondering about... really appreciate the time you took to respond to this.