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Ostomy Memories Goes Out to Dinner

Mon Feb 28, 2022 4:42 am
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JUST BECAUSE WE NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING that felt good, we went out to dinner Saturday night. We usually save that sort of extravagance for special occasions but, I guess, we just decided to manufacture a special occasion. So off we went to our favorite mom & pop Italian restaurant. “We won’t need those menus,” I told the waitress. We always get the same thing. Why experiment when you know what you like. My wife got eggplant Florentine, I got veal parmigiana. Although we were nervous about eating in the restaurant, we selected a table that was a bit off to the side and no other parties were seated near us. It was great! For dessert, we split a piece of N.Y. cheesecake. My wife paid the tab, since she knows that I’m a lousy tipper (aka cheapskate). So for a short time, focused entirely on each other and our delicious meal, we forgot all about the madness and badness and sadness in the world. I think that I handled the turbulent Sixties – another rough decade – better than I’m handling what we’re living through today because I was younger, didn’t have kids or grandkids, and was busy poisoning my mind with an ever-expanding reading list, none of which involved politics or current events. The ostomy in 1964 saved me from Vietnam, and my old man’s cynicism and sense of absurdity are saving me from going completely bonkers today. One has to take advantage of one’s small opportunities.



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Mon Feb 28, 2022 10:24 am

Nervous about eating in a restaurant? Why?

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Mon Feb 28, 2022 10:56 am


AlexT wrote:

Nervous about eating in a restaurant? Why?

Oh, a little thing called a corona virus, or Covid 19, going around, killing hundreds of thousands of Americans.  That's all.

Mon Feb 28, 2022 11:00 am

You'll never go for a ride if you're worried about the fall. My problem with sit down restaurants is I have nobody to take to dinner. 

Mon Feb 28, 2022 12:13 pm


AlexT wrote:

You'll never go for a ride if you're worried about the fall. My problem with sit down restaurants is I have nobody to take to dinner. 

You're exactly right.  That's why I've been avoiding airplanes, motorcycles, and parachutes.  Don't they have available women where you live?

Mon Feb 28, 2022 12:34 pm


HenryM wrote:

You're exactly right.  That's why I've been avoiding airplanes, motorcycles, and parachutes.  Don't they have available women where you live?

Don't know, haven't found any yet


Tue Mar 01, 2022 11:40 am

Hi Alex ,  I'm all the way over here in Ireland and I got very fortunate in finding the Love of my life all the way  across the pond in Cal .  I was lucky in that San Francisco used to be my home and I have two Brothers there so if the actual  initial meeting  went bad I had someplace to run to 😱😱   ....I could cover the  psycho lady from hell  scenario !!  That was not required thankfully .  As soon as we looked at each other we both knew 🤠 it was all good . 

   Funny bit !!    I told Kitty I could meet her at the Japanese restaurant for our first date   , just in case it was Psycholady  !!  you never know lol !!  I was at my Brother's house and wanted to isolate him from any possible weirdness . Kitty was sharp as a tack !!  " You don't want to give his address , right ?? " .  Caught !!  I sheepishly said ...well you never know how these things will go so I  plead guilty as charged . She broke out laughing and just said ,  "  Just give me address you Dork !! " 

   I wasn't sure if I should just shake hands or give a kiss on the cheek or ..??? . It had been a Looong time for me   , out of practice !!  I sat in her car ( my Bro stayed in his house ....probably peeking out the window  lol. )  I put out my hand and she responded with a warm smack on the lips . She said I turned bright red  and she just giggled like a kid on her first date ever .  She knew there was no doubt before we ever actually met  🤗.  Women get those Vibes Alex  , they got the Power  !!! 

  We saw a movie after lunch and went straight to her house to meet her two wonderful kids who took to me right away ...best Buds instantly . 

   So as Tom Petty once said ... " Even the losers get lucky sometimes "  ,   not you Alex , I'd been a loser in love for quite a long time  so never give up .

   Unfortunately we only had three years together before we lost Kitty so suddenly but they were the Best three years of my lufe . 

   To have had that time together was worth the grief and heartbreak of losing Kitty   . " Better to have loved and lost  than never to have loved at all " . Truer words were never said  !!

  Wishing you luck and Love Dude ...she's out there in the  Ether waiting for your call  !! 🙂☘ now I have to get the tissues .

Eamon  ☘


Tue Mar 01, 2022 11:47 am


Anonymous wrote:

Hi Alex ,  I'm all the way over here in Ireland and I got very fortunate in finding the Love of my life all the way  across the pond in Cal .  I was lucky in that San Francisco used to be my hom...

Oh Eamon, I had to get the tissues as well. 😢 You had such a beautiful love story with Kitty. ❤️ {{{Hugs}}}


Tue Mar 01, 2022 11:59 am


AlexT wrote:

Don't know, haven't found any yet

Like Eamon said, she is out there just waiting for you to show up. Keep the faith. ❤️ {{{Hugs}}}

Tue Mar 01, 2022 12:33 pm


Anonymous wrote:

Hi Alex ,  I'm all the way over here in Ireland and I got very fortunate in finding the Love of my life all the way  across the pond in Cal .  I was lucky in that San Francisco used to be my hom...

Your reference to Tom Petty's lyric reminds me of the old saw... even a blind dog will find a bone eventually.

Tue Mar 01, 2022 1:17 pm


Anonymous wrote:

Like Eamon said, she is out there just waiting for you to show up. Keep the faith. ❤️ {{{Hugs}}}

Oh I'll find her.  I just hope she likes steak dinners on a Saturday night with some ice cream afterwards. 🍦


Tue Mar 01, 2022 2:01 pm


AlexT wrote:

Oh I'll find her.  I just hope she likes steak dinners on a Saturday night with some ice cream afterwards. 🍦

Will there be big blue drinks too? 😁

Tue Mar 01, 2022 2:03 pm


Anonymous wrote:

Will there be big blue drinks too? 😁

Hell yeah, I like blue raspberry KoolAid. 


Tue Mar 01, 2022 2:05 pm


AlexT wrote:

Hell yeah, I like blue raspberry KoolAid. 

LOL Cheers then 🍹🍹 (just pretend it's blue)



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Tue Mar 01, 2022 2:08 pm

You did the right thing, Henry, in going to a mom and pop italian restaurant they have better food than the more fancy ones. I spent two months in Rome some years ago when I was in my early thirties. They didn't really care for hamburgers then, but are now in a love affair with them. There are even instructions in how to bite into them -addentare, and how to hold them. Among other things I learned was to tell the difference between a Ristorante, a Trattoria and an Osteria. I was lucky to find a boutique owned by a brother and sister. They told me that gents and ladies fashions are laid down in Italy and France, but people in New York and London dress conservatively and do not like to change the cut of their clothing too frequently and the change takes a while. So the clothes I get in Rome will stay in vogue for a  long time. Sure enough, when I returned home, everybody including some rakes asked " where did you get that suit from", Viva Italia. 

Fri Mar 04, 2022 6:16 pm


AlexT wrote:

Nervous about eating in a restaurant? Why?

I am nervous about going out to restaurants that you may have to empty the pouch, public bathroom germs, it's my secret stopper for going out.

Fri Mar 04, 2022 6:16 pm


AlexT wrote:

Nervous about eating in a restaurant? Why?

I am nervous about going out to restaurants that you may have to empty the pouch, public bathroom germs, it's my secret stopper for going out.

Mon Mar 07, 2022 1:27 pm


AlexT wrote:

Don't know, haven't found any yet

If you look under FIND MEMBERS Relationship search there 11 females looking for a relationship in Nebraska right now. Have you tried contacting anyone?

Tue Mar 08, 2022 10:07 am


AlexT wrote:

Nervous about eating in a restaurant? Why?

I'm not nervous about eating in a restaurant. But I do have to say if I have a Coke or a beer when I am out to dinner, I surely have the gas once I'm home but that's OK because I'm already home LOL

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