I have had a 'Waisteline' colostomy now for almost 3 years and would like to share a new 'find', for those in my situation looking for a nice pair of jeans. I happened upon an ad for a brand called 'The Perfect Jean'. While the advertising is a little over the top (targeted at a younger crowd?) the jeans themselves look great and have the kind stretch that makes working with my ostomy so much easier and most importantly, comfortable! You can check them out here - https://theperfectjean.nyc
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About seven years ago, just about every aspect of my life was ostomy related. From the moment I was told an ostomy might be needed until some months down the road I existed as a person afflicted with a colostomy. I feared someone other than my immediate family might find out I had a bag. Ugh! What could be worse? Suppose it filled real fast when I was out with no place to hide and take care of myself. God forbid should it leak in church! Suppose I roll over on it in bed. I was a lesser creature, destined to a life of emotional anguish and physical routines different from most of the rest of the world. I felt like a freak. Then I found folks like you guys here, read your stuff, really “listened” to what you had to say and I began looking at things differently. We know perception is everything and I began to understand how good things were relative to what they could’ve been. So many folks had it so much worse than I did. That didn’t make my discomfort go away but it exposed how fortunate I was to be dealing with my stuff and not their’s. I felt a little guilt, maybe selfishness but quickly forgave myself by understanding I just wasn’t smart enough to fix my feelings. Then, I wonder what smarts have to do with feelings. My perception was warped so my perspective toward my existence was warped.
I learned over the last few years with the help of lots of folks right here at MAO that I could be better at living just by accepting some facts. It is what it is and so what? It’s not the worst thing to happen to a person.
I think everything is, in some way, related to everything else. I just put the ostomy thing in the back seat and drive forward.
Respectfully,
Mike
I feel ya, mate, jeans shopping with an ostomy can be a real ride. I've got a solution though. Have you tried men's patchwork jeans before? They could give you the comfort and aesthetic you're after. Try checking out this link I found: https://jeans4you.shop/collections/mens-patchwork-jeans It could be the right stop for your hunt. Just food for thought. Good luck with it.
