How many get depressed when they get an ostomy? Ummm......I'd say most. But there's 'temporary' depression, which is transient and eventually overcome, and then there's 'permanent' depression, that's a totally different animal. I'd guess the 'temporary' kind, which is what you're experiencing, lasts from days to a few years after getting your frontbutt. It's part of the whole ostomy process, and it can be linear or be a roller coaster. There's the physical component, as well as the psychological part, so there's more to it than meets the eye (and what everyone else sees).
I've said this more than a few times, but if you getting an ostomy (or chemo or a leg amputated or whatever) brings about the end of your relationship with someone........that relationship wasn't on solid ground anyway. Of course you like having someone in your life......and you will again. You just have to get to the point where you accept who YOU are, are ok with it, and then start to love yourself again like you used to. And when you get there you'll find that new special someone who's going to love you for you, ostomy or not.......at which point you'll definitely think it's worth it.
Now I'm not going to blow smoke up your ass, there very well may be some bumps in the road, and not every ostomate finds their special someone. But that's no different than it is for folks without an ostomy. The world is full of idiots, and you're going to run into your fair share of them, maybe even a few more.........but finding a diamond in a pile of shit has never been easy. Maybe the pile you're digging thru is a bit larger now, but that diamond is still in there. Don't let your ostomy define you and you'll be fine. As people get older and more mature they come to realize that none of us get out of this story alive, and approaching the finish line might not be pretty, but it's inevitable. So tolerance for minor (and major) imperfections increases greatly............and what you're thinking is a huge show stopper won't be for many of those you meet..........if the rest of you is worth spending the rest of their life with.
You're in good company, and most of us have been thru what you're dealing with. And we're still here. It gets better......or we wouldn't be.
Hang in there Tat........you got this!!