Sharing My Ostomy Story with My Girlfriend

So real quick before I head in for work…

Had "the talk" with the girl I've been seeing last night. Told her about the soft-serve nozzle in my abdomen (using slightly different terminology, of course). It actually went really well!

It helps that she's pretty awesome. I pretty much had her figured for someone who could handle it, but you never know. Some people just have hang-ups. Even cool people like you and me. It's not really a rational thing, but it happens from time to time.

So here are my nebulous thoughts on the matter this morning. Maybe it will help some of you. Some may scoff :)

1) This one applies to life in general, ostomates and non-ostomates: avoid shallow people

2) The person you are interested in can only be as comfortable with your situation as you are.

3) Rehearsing one side of a conversation is useless. "Display some @#$!ing adaptability!" (Bonus points if you recognize the quote)

I can't believe how great these past few months have been since surgery and healing up. They've just been filled with things I never thought I'd be able to do again!

I think that's pretty much it. For now.

Good luck!

Matt

I'm happy for you Matt and glad you're over that hurdle.

I know what you mean about that nozzle; I have a similar problem, heh, heh.

Jacksprat

Congratulations" Matt! You've succeeded in conquering what we all fear the most: rejection. You braved those scary waters with dignity and without expectation.

See, we are just "perfect" human specimens, as valuable as any, braver than most, and deserve a relationship on a level playing field. "You go, buddy." I wish you joy, love, excitement, chill bumps, daydreams, and prosperity.
BEG

Go get him, BEG!!

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Got him Jack....LOL

Completely understand. Have been married 18 years. When we met, I was not sure he would want a 52-year-old with a bag glued to her. How wrong I was.

I can't believe someone else calls it "The Talk"; I'm so glad it went well for you. I have had numerous experiences of "The Talk" and have only had one guy say he had difficulties dealing with it. Unfortunately, what I have found is that stoma or no stoma, you can still get used, and as it turns out, the one guy I have the most respect for now is the one who was honest with me from the beginning, lol.

I really hope everything goes well for you and your new lady, and believe that I will have more success when I am more comfortable with my own situation. You could not be more right about comment number 2 if you tried, lol!!!

You could say it's a work in progress, lol.

Guessing item 3 quote for the Bonus Points:
from the film "Withnail and I" ???

Thanks, gang :)

@Orchid I was actually thinking of the book Cryptonomicon. But bonus points for the movie suggestion!