Does it bother you when you are giving oral sex and the partially full colostomy bag is banging against
your face?
your face?
cadet19
Jul 04, 2014 9:31 pm
cruznby
Jul 05, 2014 1:01 am
Well, my new wife doesn't seem to mind, but a bit of discretion must be taken, and hygiene is a must. Never thought I'd be answering a question like this, but what the hell!
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DH
Jul 05, 2014 2:47 am
Well, where a pouch cover and don't act like your colostomy is a handicap. My husband is still as up close and personal with me as before I had my colostomy, and I think it's because I don't act like it's a handicap. But it is a good idea to make sure your bag is empty beforehand.
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Zywie
Jul 05, 2014 6:00 pm
While it's been a while since I have had the pleasure - I would not like it at all. But, there are so many products out there to keep this from happening. You and your partner should check online for ostomy products. I think the one most look at is called Ostomy Secrets - but there are a few. Plus, I read one woman uses tube tops (covers it up and keeps it in place) which aren't expensive and you can get at any Wally World or the like. Kudos for you going at it anyway!
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bookguy
Jul 06, 2014 1:03 am
Seems only reasonable that you wear either an emptied bag or a new one in such a situation.
WAB
Jul 09, 2014 12:00 pm
Plan if you can... As well, food passes quickly with a stoma... So do not eat before having sex... Hard to do but possible... If you can irrigate, irrigate, irrigate... It solves the problem completely... Nothing passes until the next irrigation... I can usually go 2 days without irrigating... And you can have sex any time you want... Lol... Also, buy these hernia stretch bandages... They come in 5-inch widths... Can be stretched and tightened... The bag stays secure...
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moonshine
Jul 14, 2014 12:46 am
LMFAO... you know I have an ileostomy bag and they do sell lingerie or dude briefs with pockets. Would you mind my bag hitting you in the face?
Past Member
Jul 14, 2014 9:10 pm
LMFAO... Are you really thinking of banging a bag of shit to someone's face!? Obviously, man, a new one or a clean emptied one... Not talking from experience, but it's common sense.
MrBillYTO
Jul 17, 2014 4:40 pm
I like Moonshine's answer. In the end, would you want a partially full bag hitting you in the face? Maybe, but most likely not! Theoretically, you have 2 hands... use one of them to hold the bag away from your partner's face. Just sayin'...
nskeeter99
Jul 21, 2014 2:37 am
I wear a belt. So make sure mine is empty and clean, then tuck it up in the belt so it's out of the way for most sexual activities.
Sven
Jul 23, 2014 3:39 am
My mate doesn't seem to mind when my grip slips on it, but otherwise I make it a point to hold my bag away from his face. Absolutely no negative impact on his love of giving oral.
moonshine
Jul 23, 2014 5:20 am
I like the pocket/wraps from Ostomy Secrets. If you can find someone who doesn't care, go for it.
maryj4me1
Aug 05, 2014 2:06 am
I have the same problem with my feeding tube. I was so embarrassed the first time with my husband. Of all people, your spouse. My tube hangs down way low, and I use my dressings to hold it up. Just as when I swim, I used a colostomy bag to put my tube in and then seal it to my stomach. It took me 40 years to wear a bikini and I made up my mind that I was not going to be embarrassed to wear a bikini on the beach, so I wear that colostomy bag and I wear it proud. I figure nobody knows me and if my family doesn't have a problem with it, I don't either. And after 35 operations and being almost 51 years old, if my husband thinks his wife looks damn good in a bikini, I am gonna wear one!
Zywie
Aug 06, 2014 8:10 pm
My reply was for Mary's attitude about wearing a bikini for her husband - since I can't edit, I thought I'd put an addendum. I've been getting a lot of winks since my post on August 4th. Yikes! :/
suugaahh
Apr 26, 2018 9:27 pm
I never had any problems with oral and having a stoma bag. I usually fold mine, but it has never been any nuisance at all when I have oral sex with a man since we are being very open here.
suugaahh
Apr 26, 2018 9:28 pm
@Zywie haha loving your replies ???? no wonder you're getting winked at haha
freedancer
Jun 14, 2018 4:59 pm
My thoughts are that you put on a new bag before intimate contact and see if one of those wraps to hold the bag in place will work for you.
Victor61
Jun 14, 2018 10:16 pm
Jeez... I simply wear a t-shirt and lie flat on my back when receiving oral. I then tuck my bag under my t-shirt. I don't really have to as my partner loves me and my bag. When in the hospital for surgery, the first thing he wanted was to get to know my wee bag and even empty it. He also christened it Dolphin, due to the funny noises it makes. It's fun having a bag and a life.