Decisions On Reversal

Bill · 2017-10-01T08:26:34-04:00

DECISIONS ON REVERSAL. Sometimes stomas are performed so someday they maybe reformed. Surgeon’s can sow the colon back and lives can then be back on track. There are some people with a choice to make decisions and give voice to what they really want to do if a reversal comes in view. Now I recall that I rehearsed how I would have it all reversed. For sure it could my life enhance if only I would get that chance. It all seemed so straightforward yet I hesitated with this bet. What were the hidden risks to me to get rid of my ostomy? When all about it was not known then some seeds of doubt were sown. I thought I ought to research more so I would know what lay in store. With exploration on the ‘net for information I might get. The risks I found might be quite high I then was bound to ask the why. Why prevaricate with fear as my reversal date drew near. I waited so long for this day but what was wrong I couldn’t say. I ponder now on this subject and wonder how in retrospect someone like me would know it all so I or we could make this call. B. Withers 2013

Bill

Oct 01, 2017 12:26 pm

DECISIONS ON REVERSAL.

Sometimes stomas are performed
so someday they maybe reformed.
Surgeon’s can sow the colon back
and lives can then be back on track.

There are some people with a choice
to make decisions and give voice
to what they really want to do
if a reversal comes in view.

Now I recall that I rehearsed
how I would have it all reversed.
For sure it could my life enhance
if only I would get that chance.

It all seemed so straightforward yet
I hesitated with this bet.
What were the hidden risks to me
to get rid of my ostomy?

When all about it was not known
then some seeds of doubt were sown.
I thought I ought to research more
so I would know what lay in store.

With exploration on the ‘net
for information I might get.
The risks I found might be quite high
I then was bound to ask the why.

Why prevaricate with fear
as my reversal date drew near.
I waited so long for this day
but what was wrong I couldn’t say.

I ponder now on this subject
and wonder how in retrospect
someone like me would know it all
so I or we could make this call.

B. Withers 2013

stevebeme

Oct 02, 2017 6:57 pm

I have decided to go back to an ostomy bag. 5 years with a J-pouch is unbearable. The incontinence depresses me immensely. Do you have a J-pouch?

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Posted by: freedancer

In both of my cases, I had no choice. It was surgery or be put 6 feet under! I thank God that He has been with me all these times. Without Him, I never would have known what to do and might not have gone to the hospital when I did. I don't know if you have had your surgery or not yet but I hope you will hang out on this website when you are done. I have learned a great deal through the people here and it is so great having others who have had the same thing done and been through what you are about to or have gone through. The only thing I have turned down is a reversal of the ileostomy. When the doctors did the emergency rebuilding of my original ileostomy this last February, I told them I did not want to go through this again. My doctor told me at that time that I was no longer a candidate for the reversal. In a way, I was very relieved. The last three years of my life have been a nightmare for me. I do not want to go through any of it again. If you wish to be rehooked up and they say you are a good choice for that, research it carefully. Every surgery I have ever had except for Old and New Maxine and the emergency surgery on my broken foot, I have spent weeks researching. I recently had my C5 C6 disk in my neck replaced with an artificial one. I went to my pre-op with 2 pages of questions for the doctor. I knew everything that they were going to do and could talk intelligently with them. I always try to research my adversaries! Don't cancel your surgery. It is nice not to have to suffer any longer with horrible pain. We all had to change a few things around when we had our surgeries but in the long run, most of us are glad we did it. I know I am. Good luck to you!

iMacG5

Oct 02, 2017 9:20 pm

Hi Bill. It's always a pleasure reading your stuff, and Steve's contribution is so helpful. I'm happy some folks have successfully reversed their toilet process to the way it was, but not everyone can have that done without other complications. Here's what I think we need to understand: an ostomy is NOT the worst thing in the world, and we can learn to do just about everything we did before. It might be easier physically than emotionally and psychologically, but life can continue very effectively, productively, and we can even have some fun.
Bill, I think you made the right decision. Steve, I know you did.
Respectfully,
Mike

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Angelicamarie

Oct 02, 2017 10:08 pm

Hello Bill, good post something that each day an ostamate is faced with. However, each one of us has faced different situations. Some can't and some can. I wish all well whatever choice they make. Good luck! Angelicamarie

Bill

Oct 03, 2017 5:42 am

Hello stevebeme. No, I don't have a Jpouch. I have a colostomy and irrigate. However, I can empathise about the incontinence as I was faecally incontinent for years before I opted for the surgery. What I can cay is that even when I was using a bag, it was so much easier managing from the front rather than trying to manage the anal incontinence.
Best wishes
Bill

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Bill

Oct 03, 2017 5:48 am

Hello Mike.
You are so right about having a stoma NOT being the worst thing in the world. I was helped in my decision making because I HAD A PROLAPSE which they operated on several times without success. This made me realise that I needed a new approach to manage the incontinence and alleviate the dreadful pain. The stoma did the trick on both counts.
As for the emotional and psychological aspects, this is something that really needs to be addressed as an integral part of the post-surgical process as it can lead to some serious problems if it is not dealt with at an early stage.

Best wishes
Bill

Bill

Oct 03, 2017 5:51 am

Hello Angleicamarie.
Thank you for your post and, as usual you are spot-on regarding us all facing these problems form different circumstances and differing perspectives. The choices remain very personal but it is useful to be able to have an insight into other people's deliberation processes.
Best wishes
Bill

Goobie

Oct 05, 2017 7:32 pm

I am currently not having issues with leakage as I'm getting one full week between changes.

Bill

Oct 06, 2017 5:34 am

Hello Goobie.
A full week without changes sounds great and let's hope it continues
Best wishes
Bill