Hi, I have had my ostomy for over ten years now, and I haven't had a successful relationship since. I'm not dating at all for over a year now after being rejected by the last man I was interested in. I irrigate, so I'm able to hide it pretty well with shapewear or a corset, so intimacy is not an issue. It's that I have the condition, and when I irrigate, which is once or twice a week, it's messy and gross. I don't know how I could have a regular boyfriend again, or get married or anything. I feel like I'm going to end up alone for life, and I'm terrified of the pain of rejection. Any thoughts or suggestions are welcome.
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