It" Happens

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Beachboy
Apr 20, 2025 10:31 pm

The Big Scare

At church today, Mrs. B suffered a terrible calamity. One that rendered her temporarily speechless. A church friend behind me reached over to wish me a happy Easter and shake my hand. I leaned over to bid him holiday wishes too. Mrs. B nudged my leg. She was pointing toward my pants zipper. Hmmmm. Did I forget to pull it up? Nooo.
Then she hissed, "Your thingy is showing." "Thingy?" Not being conversant in Mrs. B speak... I asked..... "Just what are you blubbering about?" "Your POOP thingy!!"
Alas, my pouch tail was peeking out from under my shirt. Twas a pleasant brownish color. "Tuck...It.... In!!" She stage whispered.
Being a humorous sort, I slightly pulled up my shirt.....before hiding the offending piece of plastic from public condemnation. And eliciting more indignation from "you know who."

As Ostomates, we learn quickly enough about dealing with output. Who hasn't gotten poop on their fingers, clothes, ceiling (just kidding). We certainly cannot be squeamish.
As Forrest Gump once said: "Shit.. it happens."

Happy Easter everyone.

SusanT
Apr 20, 2025 11:06 pm

No poop on your ceiling? You're missing out.

Beachboy
Apr 20, 2025 11:16 pm
Reply to SusanT

The joys of a sigmoid colostomy... firm, predictable output.

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SusanT
Apr 21, 2025 12:25 am
Reply to Beachboy

I have an unpredictable sigmoid colonostomy with mostly liquid output. Go figure.

I just refuse to be normal. 🤣

IGGIE
Apr 21, 2025 12:27 am
Reply to Beachboy

G-Day BB,

Why didn't you have your Iggie clip on?

Iggie

 

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Beachboy
Apr 21, 2025 1:11 am
Reply to IGGIE

I did have my trusty IGGIE clip on. My shirt just pulled up enough so the bottom of my bag was visible.

I don't think Mrs. B will ever be the same.....


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IGGIE
Apr 21, 2025 1:47 am
Reply to Beachboy

G-Day BB,

When I go out, I normally fold the bag over three times to make it a lot shorter, just releasing it bit by bit as it fills before going to empty it.

The Australian Ostomy Magazine has just written about the IGGIE CLIP in this month's magazine.

Keep well, my friend.

IGGIE

infinitycastle52777
Apr 21, 2025 1:44 pm

You guys are so funny. This is why I wear long shirts. There is no chance my bag will ever show unless I raise both hands above my head, which I never do. LOL

aTraveler
Apr 21, 2025 2:42 pm
Reply to SusanT

Susan, any reason your surgeons gave for having such liquid output from your sigmoid colon? 🤔

— Proud owner of lifesaving ostomy, vintage 2023, V6 colostomy engine.

SusanT
Apr 21, 2025 5:35 pm
Reply to aTraveler

To be honest, I haven't asked. I have always had primarily diarrhea even before I got sick. Perhaps I should have chased it down years ago, but I got used to it. I don't think it's worse now than it was before I got sick, but it's very difficult to be sure.

I suspect bile overproduction, but that's a lay opinion and may be completely wrong. I had a screening colonoscopy about 6 years before my cancer diagnosis, and my colon was clean, with no polyps or evidence of disease. So it's got to be something that wouldn't show in a colonoscopy.

The only thing that reliably slows me down is opioids. I do get some intermittent thicker stool that will usually pancake. But that's <1x per week.

Nightrose
Apr 21, 2025 6:44 pm

It must be more difficult for a man to wear longer clothing. But yeah, that saying about death and taxes should have something added to it; we all do it 😇

I've sold a lot of my shorter tops on eBay. I feel I have to wear mostly tent-like clothing now.

It's the inflatable side of it that makes me self-conscious (and the gurgling).

SusanT
Apr 21, 2025 7:32 pm
Reply to Nightrose

My urostomy pouch tends to want to peek out, so I got a couple of cute, inexpensive covers off Etsy.

The colostomy pouch is much shorter and opaque.

Nightrose
Apr 21, 2025 7:50 pm
Reply to SusanT

Yes, I've seen those on Etsy; there are some really pretty ones.

How do you cope with inflation in your bag? If I leave the sticker off the filter, it doesn't inflate, but then it pancakes. 🥲 I feel so self-conscious walking around with a blimp on my left side.

TerryLT
Apr 21, 2025 7:58 pm

This would never happen to me, as I tuck the end of my pouch into my underwear. Aren't you afraid that the weight of poop in the pouch might pull on the adhesive? Or do you always wear a belt?

Terry

SusanT
Apr 21, 2025 8:51 pm
Reply to Nightrose

My urostomy pouch is a PITA. It feels like it is constantly half full or more. I swear I can empty it and it's filling up again before I can wash my hands. I don't wear tops that are tight in that area. Fortunately, my stoma is high, so even a simple T-shirt works fine.

I've found that people don't really notice the bulge... we simply don't pay that much attention to other people's bulges.

My colostomy is mostly liquid, so I leave the filter open. When it has an off, semi-solid day, I pancake, basically every time. I've been completely unsuccessful in stopping the pancaking. I typically remove the bag (2-piece system) and clean off the stoma before it gets under the wafer. Generally, I get my typical watery output right after, and that's done. Sorry I can't be more helpful.

Nightrose
Apr 21, 2025 10:25 pm
Reply to SusanT

No, you have been helpful. 😊

It's just nice to be able to talk with someone who has similar experiences. My non-stoma friends don't generally want to get TMI, although they try and seem interested. I don't blame them. 🤣

SusanT
Apr 21, 2025 10:43 pm
Reply to Nightrose

My husband puts up with it, but he doesn't really get it like another ostomate does. That's the beauty of this site. Nothing is TMI here. We've seen and heard it all before. I've learned so much from the people here.

Beachboy
Apr 22, 2025 5:34 am
Reply to IGGIE

Actually, I kind of like to tease Mrs. B with the horrors of an exposed pouch tail. Even at home, while I'm relaxing on the couch, she notices if it's exposed by a millimeter. She points and goes, "Hey, hey, heyyyy!

Cinema has introduced to the world many scary villains. King Kong. Godzilla. Freddy. Lex Luthor. To Mrs. B... they're rank amateurs... compared to a bit of poop constrained in plastic.

Beachboy
Apr 22, 2025 5:44 am
Reply to TerryLT

I always wear a belt. Without it, my bag feels heavy. With the belt on, my bag can get 3/4 full; I don't notice it.

aTraveler
Apr 22, 2025 12:36 pm
Reply to SusanT

@Susan, I don't have problems with pancaking. Like you, I use a 2-piece appliance. For me, the key has been lubricant, weight, and air/gas. For a lubricant, I use "Revel! 'It's in the bag." Proceed with caution because many on this site have complained about oil leaking out of the pouch onto their clothes. I apply only 5 ml! Rub it around the pouch so it is fully lubricated. For odor control, I apply 10 ml of hydrogen peroxide and 3 ml of water. NOTE: I use empty "Skin Integrity" bottles - one spray from the bottle is exactly 1 ml; this enables me to get precise quantities. For odor control, 20-30 ml of hydrogen peroxide is recommended, but 10 ml works fine for me — I may have to tweak the amount to what works for you. In terms of "Revel!", spraying it on rather than squeezing it out in liquid form helps to diffuse it so it is more easily used up while rubbing around the pouch. If any is left, it would slide down and mix with the H2O2 and H2O.

To help prevent a vacuum, weight is needed in the pouch. Some ostomates fold up a piece of tissue and drop it in the bottom of the pouch, but I prefer cotton balls. Again, for odor control, I add Tea Tree and Peppermint essential oils to the cotton ball before dropping it in the pouch.

I add a sticker to my filter when applying the pouch. Once gas begins to build up in the pouch, I remove the sticker. If I initially leave the filter uncovered, it develops a vacuum in the bag. If I allow the pouch to acquire gas before uncovering the filter, the weight of the cotton ball prevents the vacuum effect from occurring once the sticker is removed.

Now the effluent is not able to stick to the pouch.

CAVEATS: (1) I have a colostomy and use closed-end pouches — it may not work for ostomates with an ileostomy and others using open-end pouches, especially since they have to shoot water up into the pouch after emptying, possibly disabling the filter. (2) I also apply a barrier ring to the top of my barrier/wafer/flange — it is applied within the ring on top of the barrier/wafer/flange and around the stoma (life investment). Use your finger and/or a dampened Q-tip to ensure the barrier ring is fully within the ring on top of the barrier/wafer/flange. (3) I prefer Marlen barrier rings for their durability when in direct contact with effluent. (4) I have frequently mentioned odor control, and the final thing I do for odor management is every time I change my closed-end pouch, I clean any effluent around my life investment and inside the ring on top of the barrier/wafer/flange — the longer effluent is left, the bacteria continues to ferment the effluent and release bad odor. As a result of the attention I pay to odor management, I rarely experience any odor when changing my pouch. For a nice clean smell, I also spray Febreze when exiting the bathroom. (5) There is nothing magical about the products I have chosen: Brava lubrication/deodorant works almost as well as Revel! for me; it's actually what I used prior to learning about Revel! on this site. I use Tea Tree oil for its antibacterial properties, while Peppermint oil is used for its smell. Eucalyptus, Lavender, or other essential oils may be equally or more effective. Marlen is just a personal preference for a top-mounted barrier ring; as you know, there are quite a few barrier rings to choose from.

Susan, everything I know about urostomies, I have learned from you. Even though I do not have one, I have learned to be prepared because life happens whether we are prepared or not. Hopefully, there are some elements from my process you can use — I included my rationale to aid in understanding the reasoning for each step to aid in adopting something that works for you but accomplishes the same intent.

I apologize for the length of this post, especially since only you and Nightrose expressed an interest in pancaking. I am hopeful that it is near the end of the thread and BB doesn't notice I leaked 😉 on his pristine church post; I pray Mrs. B doesn't notice. 😊

— Proud owner of lifesaving ostomy, vintage 2023, V6 colostomy engine.

SusanT
Apr 22, 2025 9:05 pm
Reply to aTraveler

Thank you for the detailed response. I also use closed-end bags, so some of this makes sense to me.

I am already cleaning the stoma area when changing bags. It just doesn't make sense to me to leave output on it.

Unfortunately, I don't think I can get away with putting a ring on top since my stoma retracts when spewing. I think it would create too much height. I'm already using a convex wafer. Not to mention that I'm already arguing with insurance about covering my rings. They've set a limit that makes sense for one stoma but is too restrictive for two stomas.

I do think the cotton balls in the bottom of the bag are worth trying. I'd tried placing tissue at the top to keep some air in the bag, but it wasn't helping. The trick with covering the vent until it gets some gas in it sounds like a game changer. I think the mechanics of a closed-end bag are different from drainable bags, and this may be uniquely applicable to our situation.

Now we've completely derailed BB's fun topic. I'm sure he'll get his revenge soon enough... or he'll have Flabby do it. 🤣

Beachboy
Apr 22, 2025 11:51 pm
Reply to SusanT

Well... ummmm.... geee.....hmmmmm. Alas for a nanosecond... I'm speechless. Must call for professional assistance.

Flabby... Oh Flabagale......assistance needed in aisle 4....

Wha....?? That you Beach...BUM. hee heeee. I couldn't resist. I'm busy mixing a strawberry margarita. Here's my advice... get a life... hee heeeeeee

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