I was diagnosed for UC in January 2011 - underwent partial collectomy in August 2011 - opted for "J Pouch" in February 2012 - Underwent J Pouch reversal surgery in January, 2013. I have recovered completely and am a "Stomite" as we speak.
My wife was by my side all through out the roller coaster ride and over the last 3 years. We love each other.
The physical relashionship aspect of our married life, did take a hit. However I am back to reasonabaly good levels of performance and have been resonsive since the past few months. However and unfortunately - it appears that my wife does not find me attractive any more and is keeping away on the pretext that her libido levels have gone down.
I believe that the appliance is not a good sight and she is not physically attracted to me any more. Futher, I feel i am not meeting her expectation levels. I am not getting youger - any ways
Expectations from my friendly Somites:
please do advise as to what should I do - going forward. How do I handle this situation?