Aww Pammers I sure hope you are doing better dear xoxo .... this old Osty sis of yours has had a few leaks on occasion too, not often but some of my friends have them nearly nightly due to different problems like "weeping skin" ....or allergies to the tape.....or wafers too thin or wrong size not fitting snug enough around the stoma, etc....
One Osty sis has less clean up in the bed since I suggested she just put an old shower curtain between her mattress and her fitted mattress pad, that saves the bed itself, isn't so uncomfortable to lay on, and also to keep a towel next to the bed in case that happens you can grab your towel and hold it against you dear and make your way to the bathroom without
leaving a little trail ....once you're in the shower it always feels better, let that warm water feel good washing your skin and just try to relax.
Remember before you re-apply your fresh pouch, make sure your skin is completely dry, put a big wadd of toilet paper over the stoma and a towel on your lap and on your belly just beneath your stoma incase the little rose bud starts burping up .....xoxo
Don't use soap if you can get away with that, around the stoma I mean, ...wherever the tape and seal is going, it's best to use just water in most cases to wash.....no lotions..... ( sorry you probably already know all this, I don't get on this site near as much these days as I would like to so I'm a bit behind in what's all happening in here

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Once you have your fresh pouch on and return to your bed, you can bring two fresh towels with you.....one for next to the bed in case you need to use it as already described.....the second towel is in case you'd like to tuck that under you, or if you lay on your side, just comfortably tuck that under your side.....
I hope some of this helps you........keep trying different pouches, so many of us have different pouches that work best for us under our different skin conditions and different situations......experiment.......and ask companies like Hollister and Convatec and others out there for any samples they can offer you.........
I wish I was there to help you.
There is a new Ostomate in my town and she is also having a terrible time with adjusting


...she is an elder and I am gaining her trust and trying to help her and console her........
I've had my ileostomy since I was ten years old........I am 47 now.......I've never let that little bugga stop me from doing anything I want to do and continue to live a very active life.......I hope you can learn to find more comfortable ways to cope as well......feel free to contact me any time if you want to talk.
We're all in this together.........this is a fantastic site........and we're all in the same boat, for different reasons,........but we understand each other xoxoxo
Peaceful Night All !!
Much Love from Your Doe.............