It's Marsha again....and I think I'm destined to make you "my project".
You're so young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. Sure, it's different with an ostomy, but for me, I'd sooner have this than all the pain, 20=30 bloody bathroom trips a day, missing out on school, and social life, because I couldn't be away from the bathroom for long. Since surgery.....I've lived as "normal" a life as anyone could. I went to camp, changed my appliance in a stall, without running water, in the dark, with bees buzzing around. I've skiid ( wasn't good at it), went ice skating, flopped on my belly countless times ( not good at that) swam in the ocean,pools, and even the dead sea...which was a fiasco. My apliance popped off, and I was a filthy mess. But I got through it all. AT 15 , I had a determined optomistic attitude, but you should have seen the awful supplies at the time. The wafers were made of rubber or plastic and were re usable. The pouches were rubber, and were also re usable. They did "smell", so I needed to use all kinds of deodorants. I was lucky enough to know many other teens and young adults through the NY Ostomy association. That was a big help in my developing confidence and a positive attitude. Even at my "ripe old age".... I travel, meet people, snorkel ( on the great barrier reef) and won't give up on living a full and interesting life for something that just different plumbing. If you haven't "had sex" for 10 years, then you're not putting yourself out there, meeting people and being the best you possible. Start with that,and see if it makes a difference. You have a "disability" ( and I even hate to call it that) that can't be seen, and nobody has to know about it, until you want to tell. So go out, be social, meet people, give women a chance.....With or without a stoma, one needs to kiss a lot of frogs, ( or frogetts) before finding tha t prince or princess. Many people are here on this site to support you in your efforts....but you are the one who needs to step out of your comfort zone, to find what you really want. We all wish that "this hadn't happened to us", and while it may make connecting with others more of a challenge....it's doable. I really do want to hear back from you, and find out you've done something positive... Buy some new clothes, go to a singles event....Make connections on dating websites. Do things you're interested in doing.....and look around for women who are single. I love hanging out in bookstores and libraries.... Pick your interests! I'm thinking of starting to hang out at the local marinas, because I'd love to meet someone who loves the water ( sailing) as much as I do.
Best of luck to you.