Keep up the cheery disposition and someday, I'd like to hear some of those "memories" you have.
Hi i've ben reading all your answers but as yet you all seem to be sexually active,but!what do you tell a guy if you aren't sure how sex will be i know we can all find our own (non hurtful) position and even at my age i still find it hard to tell a guy that i have a colostomy and it seems worse if i find him handsome enough that i would love to go out with him and even hopefully let it lead to BED!!
If anyone has any answers let me know.
Also, I am not sayin you have to be funny, its just some people have different qualities. If guys can go out and do......it, then I am sure women will as well.
hi ,i am an ileostomate with crohn's,was diagnosed in 2004.I now have a support group<NQGOLD(nth queensland general ostomy lifestyle discussions). Meeting some amazing people.
.... Maybe you'll find a great guy with his own stoma and you'll both be happy as clams. Believe me, there are still men out there that worship women with all thier flaws (which we all have!). GOOD LUCK...RICH
The problem is with my wife, not me..I have done all the things you ladies will suggest regarding reassurance..extra fass..show I love her and it all doesnt matter..sympathised etc etc...BUT heres the real problem (as she tells it) It hurts..it leaves her sore..she doesnt self lubricate and cant get a position where the bag doesnt distress her..We tried pillows, holding herslef up standng and doggy fashion..nothing works.
Any one make a suggestion about her being 'ready' in the lubrication department..she wont go to the doc and ownt buy oils/creams or the like (perhaps she just dont want to do it, who knows?)
Wish you the best of luck and hope she comes around for you both..take care Tarababy
If you continue to get an attitude from some of the guys about dating and eventually leading to sex, try going to Craigs List dating site and see some of the attitudes that the women have about guys. Makes a guy feel like he has a stoma on his head. By the time she gets through her "I am not going to tolerate this and that", the poor guys are so intimated that they sometimes wish they hadn't even bothered. Just borrow some of their attitudes.