I've been a member on this site for a couple of years but have never attempted to ask a question, so here it goes:
In the fall of 2013, I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer which caused me to lose all but 8 inches of my colon, causing unending diarrhea, and it caused me to lose my bladder, causing a urostomy.
In February, I will be back to work full-time for 3 years. Recently, I had my 16-year review. The one thing they wanted me to work on was taking fewer sick days. I had taken 10 days in the past year, which was more than I had thought I'd taken but still not THAT much. I had the sick/flex hours to use, and these days included regular days when you have a cold or flu plus days when I was cramping or had other issues or days when I was just so tired I couldn't do it.
My question is, are they even allowed to say something like that to me, with my circumstances? Does anyone know the criteria for disability or how to go about that? I have no idea what my options are. I have mentioned this to a couple of people at work (so they know me and my circumstances), and they think the comment was way out of line and there should be some kind of option that could help me, but they have no idea what that could be either if my employer thinks I take too much time off for medical reasons.
I'm a bit frustrated with this because I have always been a good employee, and the people that need to know know my situation. Any opinions or help with this would be greatly appreciated.