This topic is about a 71-year-old person who is considering whether to keep their ileostomy or undergo a reversal surgery. After having surgery for a diverticulitis blockage, they now have an ileostomy. Although their surgeon says a reversal is possible, they feel comfortable with the stoma and are not mentally ready for another surgery. Their family thinks not having the reversal is a bad idea, but they are content with their current situation.

Here are some insights and advice shared by others:

1. Deciding on whether to have a reversal is a deeply personal choice. Being satisfied with an ostomy is completely valid, and while family opinions are important, the individual's comfort and readiness should come first.

2. Reversal surgery comes with risks, which increase with age. Each additional surgery can lead to new complications, such as adhesions.

3. Studies show both good and bad outcomes from reversal surgeries. While positive results might be more common, there are no guarantees.

4. One person shared their experience of keeping a colostomy after facing severe complications. They had extensive discussions with multiple surgeons and an ostomy specialist. Reconnection would have required two more surgeries, which influenced their decision.

5. It's important to gather detailed information from surgeons and ensure they answer all questions honestly. This helps in making an informed decision that you feel confident about.

6. Both physical and mental healing can take a significant amount of time. Many people find they need to regain full strength and mental clarity before deciding if another major surgery is worthwhile.

7. Some ostomates over the age of 80 have chosen to keep their stoma after thorough research and reflection. They suggest waiting until fully healed, researching procedures and potential outcomes, and asking yourself, "Can I live with the end result?"

8. One member is willing to share their personal experience privately with anyone who has had their colon removed and is considering reversal options.