This topic is about a challenging experience someone had on a coffee date, where the conversation took a turn for the worse due to the other person's lack of understanding about living with a stoma. Here's a breakdown of the situation and some helpful insights:

- The date started well, but when the topic of the stoma came up, the other person had done little research and suggested it could be "fixed" with a green diet and homeopathic remedies. This was frustrating and insulting for the person with the stoma, highlighting a common issue in dating.

- The person with the stoma always discloses their condition before meeting someone new to avoid any surprises. They managed to leave the date politely to prevent any drama.

- While healthy living is important, suggesting that diet alone can cure a complex chronic illness is infuriating. Past relationships were more understanding, but recent dates seem to expect perfection without effort.

- Ignorance about chronic illnesses is widespread. Many people rely on quick online searches and propose natural or homeopathic "cures," often blaming the patient.

- It's better to discover such attitudes early on and move on quickly.

- Some coping strategies include:
1. Laughing it off or playing along with questions for amusement.
2. Not losing sleep over it and remembering that life is too short.
3. Responding with a sarcastic "Google this" or jokingly suggesting they read a book.

- Opinions vary on when to disclose having a stoma. Some suggest waiting until a relationship is more established, while others agree with being upfront. The key is to do what feels safest and most comfortable.

- Supportive partners do exist, as shared stories of spouses and fiancés who help manage the challenges of living with a stoma show.

- Ignorant or minimizing comments can come from anyone, including medical professionals and friends.

- Venting about these experiences is normal and healthy. The community offers sympathy and encourages not giving up on finding the right person.