This topic is about someone who is feeling anxious about an upcoming proctectomy surgery, which involves creating a permanent ostomy, often referred to as a "Barbie butt." They are reaching out to others for support and to hear about their recovery experiences.

Here are some helpful insights and advice shared by others who have been through similar experiences:

1. Many people found that the pain after surgery was actually less than the pain they experienced before the operation. However, one person mentioned having an abscess that took a few months to heal.

2. It's a good idea to use a soft pillow when sitting. This can help protect the surgical area and make sitting more comfortable during the recovery period.

3. Eating foods that are rich in protein can be beneficial for wound healing, so consider incorporating more of these into your diet.

4. It's common for people to choose a permanent ostomy after unsuccessful reversal attempts. Most people do not regret this decision once they start recovering.