This topic is about a 39-year-old single mother from New Jersey who is feeling quite alone because she is the only person she knows with an ostomy. She loves reading, going to Broadway shows, watching movies, and binge-watching TV shows. She is open to making new friends or even finding romance with other ostomates around the world. She is looking forward to her fourth stoma revision surgery on November 5, hoping it will finally resolve her ongoing issues.

Here are some helpful pieces of advice and insights for her:

1. Membership & Support
- Consider upgrading to a full membership on the site to freely send and receive emails.
- Try to find a local support group through hospitals, a Google search, or the United Ostomy Association of America (UOAA) to help reduce feelings of isolation.

2. Dating & Disclosure
- Use online dating to get to know someone through text or phone calls before meeting in person, and share about the ostomy once trust is built.
- Be upfront in dating profiles about your energy levels and interests; the right person will not be put off.
- Remember that self-confidence is key, and many people, especially those in healthcare, are understanding and accepting.

3. Appliance Problems & Supplies
- Talk to your doctor about increasing the number of appliances prescribed if you need to change them often.
- Ask for adhesive-remover spray to help prevent skin damage when changing wafers.
- Be cautious when buying single pouches from stores, as older stock might not be as flexible or adhesive.

4. Stoma Management Techniques
- For those with a colostomy, daily irrigation can help you go without a pouch for several hours, which can boost comfort and confidence when out in public.

5. General Emotional Support
- Reach out to long-time ostomates and former ostomates who offer to chat via email or phone for advice or just to vent.
- Keep in mind that perseverance, humor, and connecting with others who have ostomies can make living with a stoma—and dating—much easier.