Topic Explanation:
The initial post discusses a non-ostomate's perspective on being in a sexual relationship with a man who likely has an ostomy. The person shares their surprise at not knowing for sure if the man has an ostomy, and how their perception of ostomies changed after being intimate with him.

Advice and Insights:
- The non-ostomate's perspective highlights that being intimate with someone with an ostomy did not affect their attraction or the quality of the relationship.
- Some ostomates shared their experiences and advice, emphasizing the importance of open communication with potential partners about their ostomy.
- One ostomate provided a list of common questions and misconceptions about intimacy with an ostomate, addressing concerns about hurting them, the pouch coming off, and normal sexual function.
- It was suggested that if the current relationship is satisfying and the partner hasn't disclosed having an ostomy, there may not be a need to bring it up unless the partner chooses to do so.
- Some forum members engaged in off-topic banter and humor, which did not contribute to the discussion.

Conclusion:
The forum discussion provided valuable insights into the dynamics of intimacy and relationships involving ostomates, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding between partners.