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Fri Oct 29, 2021 12:25 pm
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This weekend I will be at spa w/ girlfriend. I have my first massage scheduled in 7 years w/ colostomy. Was too shy before (at ripe old age of 64!) to go. No longer!Also I have access to anything in spa: sauna, steam, etc. (COVID safe). 

I am looking for any advice etc. re these things. I seem to recall that sauna (old favorite of mine) isn't good for adherence of barrier. But I never have adherence problems, will "splurge" if I do. It's been a long 7 years, a long pandemic. 
I assume massage is no issue; but if anyone has advice or experiences to offer, I would so much appreciate it! TIA

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Fri Oct 29, 2021 2:45 pm

Hi ,  I am happy to say that I have actually indulged . I had the experience twice thanks to the love of my life , Kitty . We both had massages at a nice little place in Santa Cruz . I was pretty scared about the whole thing as I know first hand and lots of times how bad a leak can be . We both changed bags , nice new fresh ones taped all around the edges and a strip on the borrom to make sure the velcro did not come loose ( has done in the past ) . It was wonderful to get the massage . After that we met and went to the hot tub together . I was afraid the hot water would cause disaster but not a single problem . Of course in the hot tub all we wore was our Baggies !! I won't go into it but suffice to say we both had a Lot of Fun in the bubbles ,no , did not "contaminate " the water  ...LOL .  We save the "contamination " for the shower which was in the hot tub room . It was so nice not to be worried about the other person and how she would feel about getting naked with me . We all have that little bit of bulge around the Stoma area , other than that I'm quite slim . Kitty was always trying to fatten me up !! There was a small kind of Tropical garden just outside the window which added to the nice atmosphere . When the other person also has an Ostomy it is such a pressure-free atmosphere and you can enjoy holding your partner close with nothing between you but your mutual plastic Baggage . Eliminating the fear and the nervous tension is sooooo damn liberating . 

The Sauna was equally trouble free .

Had No problems at all . I explained to the Masseuse that I had the bag and she was so nice and sensitive about it I was totally at ease . We had many more visits planned but those plans were never to be fulfilled , just so happy we did it when we did . 

Go for it , especially if your Partner also has a Baggie . 

Love and Hugs to all the gang out there  XX

Fri Oct 29, 2021 2:48 pm

Liz411...

         Happy relaxing fun day for you . I've been and geez it felt so good . Just forget about your bag and enjoy. Always carry a change with you , but you'll be fine . 
Ritz

Fri Oct 29, 2021 3:21 pm


magoo wrote:

Hi ,  I am happy to say that I have actually indulged . I had the experience twice thanks to the love of my life , Kitty . We both had massages at a nice little place in Santa Cruz . I was pretty scared about the whole thing as I know first hand and lots of times how bad a leak can be . We both changed bags , nice new fresh ones taped all around the edges and a strip on the borrom to make sure the velcro did not come loose ( has done in the past ) . It was wonderful to get the massage . After that we met and went to the hot tub together . I was afraid the hot water would cause disaster but not a single problem . Of course in the hot tub all we wore was our Baggies !! I won't go into it but suffice to say we both had a Lot of Fun in the bubbles ,no , did not "contaminate " the water  ...LOL .  We save the "contamination " for the shower which was in the hot tub room . It was so nice not to be worried about the other person and how she would feel about getting naked with me . We all have that little bit of bulge around the Stoma area , other than that I'm quite slim . Kitty was always trying to fatten me up !! There was a small kind of Tropical garden just outside the window which added to the nice atmosphere . When the other person also has an Ostomy it is such a pressure-free atmosphere and you can enjoy holding your partner close with nothing between you but your mutual plastic Baggage . Eliminating the fear and the nervous tension is sooooo damn liberating . 

The Sauna was equally trouble free .

Had No problems at all . I explained to the Masseuse that I had the bag and she was so nice and sensitive about it I was totally at ease . We had many more visits planned but those plans were never to be fulfilled , just so happy we did it when we did . 

Go for it , especially if your Partner also has a Baggie . 

Love and Hugs to all the gang out there  XX

Thanks! Glad it was great! No my girlfriend is just a friend w/o a bag! But a good friend. 
I suspected the masseuse would be sensitive, hope mine will be. I'm going in the sauna, a favorite of mine, and we're going to enjoy the pool and the beach. But I really appreciate your response. Thanks again!

Fri Oct 29, 2021 3:22 pm


Ritz wrote:

Liz411...

         Happy relaxing fun day for you . I've been and geez it felt so good . Just forget about your bag and enjoy. Always carry a change with you , but you'll be fine . 
Ritz

Thanks! Less dizzy at spa than on a roller coaster (like I was!) 😂

Fri Oct 29, 2021 5:38 pm


c57557555 wrote:

ne a ware hot tub or sonraus your bag can will come off sweet steam .//wound nurses said take bags with u bag fall off put feet in tub nut waist peel off  .//also here  u like to sweim  bagg need to be on 5 hours be fore u swim wound nurse info take breaks dump.//

Thank you

Fri Oct 29, 2021 8:49 pm

I have been wanting to get a massage. I was kinda worried about laying on my stomach that long. Do you lay flat on the stomach.

Fri Oct 29, 2021 9:25 pm

Hi Lovely ,  that was exactly where my fear  . My experience laying flat face down spells " Pancake "  !!   My Baggie is on my right  so  I asked for a towel . I rolled it up like a tube  and placed it under my right side  , sort of around the baggie so there would not be completely flat on the table , allowing the air / gas to get into the bag . It can be worked out to prevent a blowout . The massage person should not push downward  too much .  Either way , eep an extra towel under your belly   in cast the worst happens . My massage was my first  and I was a bit worried  but it was great . 

Go for it Lovely .  Enjoy  ☘💚

Eamon 😜🤗

Fri Oct 29, 2021 9:25 pm

Hi Lovely ,  that was exactly where my fear  . My experience laying flat face down spells " Pancake "  !!   My Baggie is on my right  so  I asked for a towel . I rolled it up like a tube  and placed it under my right side  , sort of around the baggie so there would not be completely flat on the table , allowing the air / gas to get into the bag . It can be worked out to prevent a blowout . The massage person should not push downward  too much .  Either way , eep an extra towel under your belly   in cast the worst happens . My massage was my first  and I was a bit worried  but it was great . 

Go for it Lovely .  Enjoy  ☘💚

Eamon 😜🤗

Sat Oct 30, 2021 5:00 am


lovely wrote:

I have been wanting to get a massage. I was kinda worried about laying on my stomach that long. Do you lay flat on the stomach.

I intend to lie on my back, but I have a curvy spine, so tell folks to skip it!

Sat Oct 30, 2021 5:01 am

Thanks!

Sat Oct 30, 2021 9:45 am

Remember to stay HYDRATED .   ENJOY....

Sat Oct 30, 2021 1:37 pm

Good point! 

Sat Oct 30, 2021 5:07 pm


Liz411 wrote:

I intend to lie on my back, but I have a curvy spine, so tell folks to skip it!

My back and down the back of my legs is where I need the service. I could not see how a massage laying on my back would help.

 

Sat Oct 30, 2021 5:11 pm

I'll write more later but I was on back and stomach. It was perfect, no issues!

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