Hi Tiff , I should have mentioned the obstacles that conspired to make my time with Kitty a great victory for boyh of us .
First off , my house is in the Wild and Wonderful West of Ireland . I am a Citizen of Ireland a US citizen so I can travel freely back and forth . I lived in San Francisco for years and really grew up in Ca . I went back to live with and take care of my Mom after my Dad died . I was quite ill at the time so the slow pace in my home town was perfect for me .
After we lost my Mom I stripped the house to the foyr walls and rebuilt it ...with my own two little hands !! 😜🤗. Since then I spent most summers on Ca , half and half roughly .
I hooked up with Kitty while I was in Ireland , via the Internet . We both signed up to another Ostomy site . Kitty had an Ileo after Bbreast Cancer treatment , radiation destroyed her intestines and wound up with " Short Bowel " . She gallantly overcame the fact that she had only about 16 inches of Small intestine left . She could eventually eat again normally . She got her Masters and became an SLP , Speech and Language Pathologist , Speech and Language Therapist . She settled in San Jose ( Silicon Valley ) with her two kids , both are ADHD and have Autism to some degree . She got work in the school district and helped so many little kids speak and communicate with the world . To them she was Smiling Miss Kitty . I have hindreds of photos and her Dimpled chin and big happy grin are featured in every pic .
Kitty beat the Breast Cancer and Short Bowel and her Kiddies were her whole life , her own kids and all the little sweeties that she helped . I used to go to the school sometimes and they all loved her so much . She arranged for iPads for children who couldn 't speak and they finally got to communicate with everyone .
Kitty texted me out of the blue while I was on the way to Reno for the Hot August Nights car show .. My Nephews and my Brother are car nuts . ( 1969 Charger 😱😱. ) . We spoke and texted for three sid hours . We arranged our first date for Monday . Kitty came to pick me up at my Brother's house . Believe it or not we discovered that her only Sister lived just ten minutes from my Brother's house in San Mateo !!! Remember , when we first hooked up on the Internet I was and actually 6,400 Miles away . We suddenly discover that her Sister and my Brother lived just ten minutes away from each other !!! 🤗😜.
Kity visited me in Ireland three times and I spent about half the year with her and the kiddies . My time at home was spent getting my house finished and preparing for Kitty and the kids to join me in Ireland . We were planning to spend her Summers in Ireland with me and her two kiddies .
Kitty loved my big family and met them all ( 7 boys , 3 Girls !! ) . It was instant love for everyone she met and everyone loved her madly !! She was so looking forward to bringng the kids to Ireland to meet everyone . I could hardly believe how my life had changed . I went from doing everything alone of with a family member I suddenly had a readymade family !!!
I don't want to make this a sob story of misery but a celebration of life's possibilities and of how your life can suddenly make an amazing turn that you could never have predicted . We had three wonderful years together and I'm happy for having that . Happy that such an amazing woman loved me unconditionally , as I loved her .
If this wonderful experience could have suddenly dropped into my lap , out of the blue then there is hope for everyone . Just chat to as many people as possible and when that connection comes into view you will feel it in your bones and your heart . Your instincts will tell you what to do .
I may be going to Ireland just after Christmas and I will bring Kitty with me , some of her precious ashes to be with my Mom and Dad at the top of a hill overlooking the green hills and mountains that surround our cemetary . They never had the pleasure of meeting Kitty in life but they would have loved her just as much as everyone else . My Mom always worried that I was alone and never found that special lady . I visit her resting place and often have those little chats to let her know that I'm ok and I found that special woman who made my life whole , finally .
Gotta go now before I start the waterworks !!
Stay strong Tiff , never give up ☘💚🤗