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Stoma as a fetish


Ok..I just remembered what someone two days ago and I just had to ask. Someone told me that there is a fetish for people with stomas. Like a Pornographic sub genre out there.¬† I told them that while I know that there is some crazy ūüí© out there ..that that couldnt possibly be true. There is no way in God's green earth that I am even going to think of looking that up. But has anyone ever heard of that? I can't hide the fact that I am curious ūüėĀ

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Eew ūü§Ę it's been a question that was asked before. It's dam right dangerous and anyone who does this is asking for trouble. When you have a stoma done you get information about it and it tells you in the advice part that you should NOT use it for sex.¬†


OH MY GOOOOD....( as 15 year ols  still say in Ireland .....grooossss).

I almost spit my coffee all over my muffin ( no ! Not a sexual reference ....that would be my Muffin's¬† Muffin¬† ūüėąūüėú) .¬† There is¬† just weird and then there is downright bizzare¬† and practically speaking¬† , theoretically¬† speaking ...there are no muscles in your Stoma¬† if you think of it in terms of the¬† Butt cavity that we no longer have .so it probably wouldn't be a practical or sensible way to go about the job that our Lovely ( but very sick and perverted Ms Cazzzz....ūüėúūüėą...could I get your number caz .¬† We could discuss these issues depth¬† , penetrating to the very Nub of the issue¬† lol ...ūü§† ) .¬† ¬†Our¬† normal Horny bits are located where they are fo very practical reasons .Evolution (¬† a really Dirty word to some Luddites ūü§Į)¬† by Natural Selection¬† over millions of years (¬† or Six Thousand Years¬† if you believe the famous Bishop Usher¬† , a really¬† embarrassing¬† Irishman )¬† has settled on a practical location for our Naughty Bits¬† and pretty much ruled out other cnfigurations ,¬† a male¬† appendage coming out the top of your head¬† (¬† that could have some practical uses , like a Unicorn¬† with a¬† Horn that¬† gives some indication of¬† the male¬† emotional state¬† from minute to minute¬† lol¬† ūü§°¬† ) .¬† Mostly it would be a horrible stingky mess . Yuuuuckkk¬† ¬†.

     Seriously though    it is probably  has to do with  fetishizing of changing the bag  or taking care of someone with an Ostomy  ?? , somethng like fetishizing Amputees . There is a very strange , quite disturbing  but fascinating movie dealing with  fetishizing  injury   , amputation etc  called  " Crash "   . It is a quite strange movie with a cast of famous and really good actors , Laura Der  , Holly Hunter  among the cast .  The movie itself is  a bit like a car crash actually  .  It might be disturbing to entertain the thought of people having such an obcession , such bizzare  erotic inclinations  but you can't look away .  Most people would probably not be inclined to watch it the end . 

   If you think you might have some odd fascinations or   Outside the Box  imaginings  then this movie will  put your mind at east ...." ..there are more things in Heaven and Earth  Caz , Tiff   than are  dreamt of in your philosophy ..."  .  So I wouldn't rule anything out  but the thought of  the Stoma one is    well ...beyond The Pale . 

 Look that one up , " Beyond The Pale " ,  it has roots in Dublin  and the  defensive  Fortifications  that surrounded the city a very  very long time ago .

   Well  I have proved it again , drop a subject in my lap and I can ramble on for hours /  pages about it . English  class in Ireland often meant  writing interesting pages about often uninteresting subjects  to demonstrate one's creative writing capabilities . 

ūü§°ūü§†¬† ¬†Eamon .


OMG you make me laughūüėā. See a gentlemen with tons of knowledge. A man with compassion, hilarious, and smart. I can see Kitty was a very lucky woman ūüėä

Well not to gross out people furthur....but I have also heard that anal.prolapse is a porn genre. ūü§Ę. I guess if you could possibly conjure up a horrible thought....someone will turn it into a fetish ūü§Ę


As my Mother would say  at home when something terrible was mentioned ..."..Holy Mary Mother of  God  !! :"    or the male family member  migh phrase it ..." Holy Feckin Jasus  " ,  

¬†HOLY¬† Feckin Jasus Tiff .....what exactly have you been reading¬† or , God Forbid !!¬† ¬†Watching¬† !! ??¬† ¬†Like being caught with candy in class¬† when we were kiddies ...." aren't you going to share with us¬† LOL ...ūüėą "¬† the source of all this¬† terror inducing¬† literature¬† Ms Tiff¬† LOL .. on second thought¬† ¬† nawww . I'll be in Ireland in a while¬† alone and bored , you never know what kind of weirdness I would get up to¬† !! .¬†

    Seriously though ,  I think if you can imagine it (  even if it hurts your  Brain  to conemplate )  there is someone who would find an erotic  way to use it   do it   etc .  A Sister-in'law  gave me quite the graphic  description of   her very own Vaginal / Rectal  Prolapse . She knew that nothing medically or physically graphic really bothers me and having all my medical    painfullt personal medical adventures and misadventures  made me a  good pick for her medical woes.  

    There was one event that removed any hint of squeamishness  from my  mind  .   An ICU  Nurse had no idea how to properly install a new Baggie  for me . I was stoned on some really good drugs ,  Demerol I belueve  and Had not even seen this new plastic  shitbag attached to me   , never heard of an Ostomy .  As I am  fairly coherent and very comfortable  in y big comfy ICU bed the Nurse is fidfling  with my baggie , she says " do you know the best way to do this "   exact words !! .  I just grinned  in silence    what is that thing , I managed to say .  Anyway   long story short . It leaked into my very fresh and bloody full length belly incision .when they turned me on my eft side , flowed right into the wound for hours . My incision slowly turned all colirs and then black , like someone drew a 2 inch wide line with a black magic marker , right down the middle !!! . Cut to the chase  it had to be opened up again and cleaned and debrieded  (? ) . 

¬† ¬†In an empty room I was laying on my back¬† , not a stitch on me¬† ¬†like Jasus on the Cross . ( was not an OR )¬† . A young¬† lady¬† Nurse was there . The Surgeon told her to get some towels and other items¬† and to arrange the towels along my two sides , freezing cold .¬† I remember the Doc standing¬† over me poking my belly with gloved hands .¬† He used his middle finger to poke at the incision¬† after e took the staples out . The line was pitch black from my Breastbone right down to " Mister¬† Johnson¬† (¬† ūüėúūüėú) ...he was saved you might be happy to know !! .¬† Then came the Horror that could compare to one of those Slasher¬† , dismembering¬† filled movies ...maybe¬† "¬† Saw " would be clise .¬† As he poked the middle of my belly above my belly button ....his whole finger just disappeared . Like gripping a very rotten Watermelon¬† and the fingers slipping through the gooey mess .¬†

    As his finger disappeared I saw a black streak shoot up to the ceiling .  The poor Nurse turned whiter than her perfect uniform  and wobbled a bit  . Doc told her , very calm and quiet  , to get the extra towels ready .  Then he got around to finishing my very close to disemboweling  . He ran his finger from top down to Mister Johnson  ad as he went  my belly just opened up  like a black , bloody earthquake fault .  If you ever cut a hot  pork sausage down the middle  you can picture my belly  opening up like the  hot sausage on the pan . The black blood oozed out of the crevass  and overflowed the wound ..  I was just frozen   , mute  but in my mind I was thinking .. "  shouldn't I be dead now " as I waited to see my guts popping out  and sliding to the floor like a real life version of  the nasty little creature in  "  Alien " with no Sigorney Weaver to rescue me .I wasn't really afraid the car crash , I couldn't stop looking as my  guts threatened  to exit my belly   !!   There is a line of stitches deep in such an incision to hold the bottom layer  securely ...that single line of stitches  is what kept my guts inside .

     Took nine months  of terrifying showers   with this gaping canyon  , cleaning and wiping away the dead cells  twice a day and packing it with gauze ..all at home  alone . My Brother was there but he was in Law School so  I  tried not to interfere with his  studies . 

¬† ¬† The scar healed very well and is a two inch wide¬† flat scar¬† ¬†barely¬† visible¬† ¬†my hairy belly helps !!¬† Now you can see why¬† I'm not squeamish about¬† gory stuff .¬† I starred in my very own¬† Horror movie¬† , pity I have no video¬† ..ūüėąūüėĪūü§†




¬†ūüėĪThat officially classifies as the most horrible experience a human has ever told meūüė≤. I thought my fistula was bad..Holy Mother of God. ūüė≥

I can assure you I have not ventured to check out those scary things I heard about. I am smart enough to know you can't forget things you may stumble on. I prefer to live in my little bubble of lollipops and cat videos. I even put safe search on so I wouldn't stumble upon something my fragile mind couldnt handle.

What is it like in Ireland? I also know you have experience in SF. As you have probably read..I want to desperately visit both places. Did you have those health experiences here or in  Ireland? Just wondering how their health system measures against ours. 


Jasus huh? ūüėā

Reply to Caz67

Strange how Women have this Curiosity? It harks back to the days in the garden of Edan and, I reckon, there is more than passing glance of truth in this assertation

Reply to Anonymous

Quoting 'Hamlet' now, you sly devil.  What's next?  Are you going to claim that Shakespeare was really Irish?  LOL

Reply to tiff041

Thank you Tiff , you're not too shabby yourself ūüėú. One more thing I meant to mention .¬† You do know that being a Virgin otr at least virtually a Virgin is not nesessarily a bad thing where men are concerned . Frankly it would be¬† truely a man's Wet Dream¬† to be with a Virginal young lady like yourself¬† ūüėúūüėą.¬† . Not sure if you said whether your Girlie Bits work ?¬† I know how complicated these things are for a woman . I really knew very little about women , I mean ...the intimate parts of a woman's life until I met Kitty . Kitty wouldn't mind me saying this ....after hef breast cancer she got early Menopause . It has it's advantages in that no condom / birth control was required . It was nice to experience that kind of intimacy¬† and the eal Love that went with it .¬† I eventually admitted to Kitty how long it had been for me¬† and told her beautiful it was to lose my Virginity all over again .

    My first time was so damn romantic bullshit ....The girl was a  19 , maybe 18  from London and  I was the innocent kid from rural Ireland and we met in France on a one and only school trip  ( first ever for any school in town ) . We just gravitated to each other immediately . A kid from my class wore thick glassrs and some French kids were giving him a hard time , making fun of him . I stepped in between then and told them to Fff off  .  Denise was in the wings watching and we both helped him pick up his study material . Instant Puppy Love . 

¬† ¬† Pretty soon we were up on a grassy hill behind the school¬† ¬†rippng each othet's clothes off¬† and getting down to it¬† ¬†‚̧‚̧.¬† I was about 16¬† so she was very sweet to me . You know... I ca¬† still smell that beautiful¬† scent of you know wgat from you know where¬† lol¬† ūüėą , she smelled so nice , I coild smell her lively arom in my nostrils for days after .¬† It was a bit awkward but such a beautifull experience , surrounded by grass an a these colorful wildflowers .¬†

¬† Better stop here ....might get a bit too X rated for a delicate flower like yourself¬† Tiff¬† ¬†....ūüėú‚ėė...Nighty Nite .¬† Eamon .


Well when someone hears the V word..they think either A- Religious freak

Or B)there is something wrong.

My "lady bits" (ūüėā) work just fine. That fistula was repaired three years ago so its all back to normal. It really boils down to tragedies of past love experiences. Waaay to long to write. But basically the first person who I fell in love with was my best guy friend in HS ...who ended up being gay. I wanted this boy to take my virginity in the worst way. I even remember telling him how I felt on a warm August night...sitting on my porch swing. He obviously rejected my advances saying he didnt want to take that from me ..that I should wait for the right person. I knew he was gay..I just wanted him any way I could and figured he could forget I was a woman for just one night. Terrible..I know ūüėí. So it didnt happen then

The next guy I fell in love with was freshman year of college. He was a skateboarder. I was (and still am) MAJORLY attracted to skateboarders. Something about them and the boards. Like...watching skateboarding videos is porn for me ūüėĀ. Anyway he was from the Bay area (which started my fascination with SF). We were getting to that point..the point where I was fully ready...and he ended up dying in a car accident ūüėĘ After that was the furthest thung from my mind for a few years.

The third guy I ended up getting attached to had just gotten out of a bad marriage and wasnt ready to fully commit yet. I really liked him but I wasnt going to share "the" moment with someone who wasnt emotionally ready yet to have a relationship.

Fourth guy...ended up finding out he had a criminal record which he his from me for months. I am all about forgiveness but he had problems with pain pills and needed to get help and work through that. 

After that..I got started to get alot sicker and was in and out of the hospital HUNDREDS of times (as you read some of my backstory) and then eventually got Stella (my stoma). So for a VERY long time I wasnt even concerned with dating. And then now Stella complicates things. you see. The right moment never presented itself. And I am SO not the type to have a casual fling or a one night stand. we are. 40 years old..unmarried..barren..ūüí©out of my stomach.

I know a man would/should feel lucky to get me. But sometimes those doubts creep in and I feel like a virginal freak ūüėĒ. I truly appreciate your comments and stories though. You are one of my top people to talk to‚̧. Not to mention those Irish accented words ūüėė. Keep the communication coming. I truly value your thoughts and opinions ‚̧


Hi Henry ,¬† what¬† Henry didn't know that The Bard was a Mayo Man¬† like¬† meself !!!¬† I'm sure that so.eplace back there alittle dropeen¬† of¬† Gaelic blood found it's way into him¬† !! ‚ėė‚ėė....if he was lucky . LOL..

   In the Ireland of the old days the Pen was a whole lot safer and often a better weapon than the Sword ....Maybe you shouldn't bring a knife to a Gunfight but  sometimes bringing a Pen ( quill pen !! )  to a Swordfight  worked fairly well  . Like many  ancient  societies and cultures  attempts were made to decimate native language and culture  over hundreds of  years  in Ireland . There were " Hedge Schools " (  in the Bog  under a stick and sod  lean-to ) or the  Bog Mass sites where religious gatherings too place . The Irish / Gaelic language  being banned under penalty of death or at minimum , eviction  with the little house  burned or roof removed .  

    The history ( like many others ) was passed along in Stories told by the " Auld ones " , Granny or Granda  sitting by an open fire with a big pot of Spuds boiling  in the big black " Witches Pot "  with a hook allowing it to swing in and over the  Turf ( Peat) fire .  . Being a good Storyteller  requires  lots of imagination and creativity  , embellishing  on the fly to keep the attention of the audience .   

   Conflicts and battles were recounted as  Fairytales which had deep roots in actual history . The reality of history was  mixed with a healthy dose of imagination and fantasy  populated by Giants and Heroes  ,  Magical Swans  and Gigantic Irish Wolfhounds  ( Really  like a small Donkey  !! ) .  Every culture must have it's hero characters , some real , actual people and some a mixture of  Saints  and Warriors  from history and Pre-history .  The culture was kept alive and saved  by the Storytellers  .  On a bit of a tangent the early Church in the "Dark Ages "  became the  saviors of  the historical records from the fall of Rome onwards .   The Monks of " Skellig Michael "  off the coast of  Kerry / Cork  on the Southern Coast . were  amazing people . This tiny island is just s Spike of rock sticking up out of the Atlantic a few miles off the coast .  They lived in tiny " Beehive Huts " built without mortar or cement or even Lime , just flat stones cantelevered  in a perfect Dome .  The Island and the Beehive Huts  are featured in the last Star Wars movie , just a magical location . The Monks dedicated their lives to making copies of religious and historical manuscripts  from all over Europe .   Pics in my Photos page . 

    Anyway ....rambling again .  The storytellers eventually got tgeir hands on pen and paper and Gutenberg supplied their mass marketing .  I think this is why we are known for " The Gift of The Gab " !!   I used to have Kitty and her Kiddies rolling on the floor with roars of laughter when I would  portray an old Irish Farmer giving  directions , if your GPS stops working !! 

    " The place you're looking for is just down there now ,  over that hill  . You know you're on the right road when you pass the  cottage on the left that used to be there .  Keep going until you see the Cows  on the right but they won't be there cause  Jimmy Jon McGinty will have the in for milking .......and so it gies for ten minutes , no wiser at the finish than at the start  but very entertaining with lots of stories about the Sheep that fell over the  150 foot cliffs while trying to get that  one clump of sweet green grass that was just too far out on the ledge .  This is a fact actually . There will be a huge field of lovely fresh grass and the Sheep will be right out on the edge of a huge cliff , stretching his neck to reach  that one clump of grass he just has to have . I've seen Donkeys and Sheep  washed up on the rocks but never Goats !!  Smart and agile mountain climbers !! 

    What was I talking abiut again .....oh yea ..Dracula had his literary origins in Dublin the home of Bram Stoker .  A quite appropriate  description of how the Colonial Powers  sucked the blood out of their victims , trying not to actually kill them ( usually )  but to control their subjects / victims  and use them for as ling as they were useful . When Estates needed to be consolidated by the local Lord  then the tenants were expendable , worn out  by the Bloodsuckers  who stole their food , their health , language and culture  and finally the roof over their head  , spelling their end .   Not sure if this might have been an intended subplot but I find it very interesting to  speculate . He attended Trinity College in Dublin which  was usually out of bounds for  Native Irish people . Trinity  could be described as the Protestant University  , a Unionist institution which  catered to the  families of Settled English  and Loyal Unionists only .  

   It is funny sometimes , if a Northern person  is percieved as " good , heroic   etc etc  then  both England and Ireland will claim them as a Native Son . If he / she is   more a villian  than hero  then both England and Ireland will  vehemently  describe them as  belonging to the Other side .  Soccer was notorious  as a gauge of how  Unionist or Nationalist   a person leaned . In Northern Ireland  a Pub conversation would start by finding out which  Soccer Team a person supported .  The Scots  Celtics  meant Irish Nationalist / Catholic ....the Scots Rangers  meant  Unionist /  Loyalist / Protestant . .  Being the Wrong Color  meant a quick and quiet exit ....without finishing the Pint  !!! .

¬† ¬†Ok¬† that's it ...ūüėĪ‚ėė

Eamon .

Just to be clear  Henry  and the crew who might read this far ??   The things I write , stories etc  are 100%  factual unless I say otherwise  . 




OMG now I've heard everything! So weird, awful. Everyone else had described perfectly. I can't add. UGHūüėĖūüėęūüėā


You made me laugh pretty hard thanks! The part about you not wanting to look it up got me :) I can't even hardly stand myself in that regard, let alone someone else getting off on such an offputting subject! God bless 

Reply to Stomadare11

Like I said...if you can dream it is probably out there. Like I am sure there is midget inbred menstruating teenage mom with a stepson with a missing limb bearded pregnant asian lactating porn. ūü§Ęūü§ģNow.¬† No offense to anybody who falls in that category or if you are a fan of that kind of stuff. Or to people who enjoy getting the ūüí© beat out of them electrocuted with a cattle prod in a dungeon somewhere.¬† Just ain't my bag.ūüė¨ Um..hehehe...."ain't my bag" get it?ūü§≠


Reply to Anonymous

I am sorry Liz. I will take full responsibility for any psychological trauma that I may have caused ūü§Ď.¬†


No harm! Just one more thing out there! ūüėāūüėā

Reply to tiff041

Now that's a disturbing but creative image you painted there! Funny!


I've heard of enema fetish but not that

Reply to Stomadare11

Doesn't that just float your boat?ūü§§. Now you can dream about that one ūüėČūüôÉ


I have enough kinky dreams don't need to add that


"¬† ¬†young innocent Lad from¬† the Wild Wesht¬† of Eire the Holy Jasus and his Blessed Saints¬† ...yer a right binch of sick puppies¬† on this site¬† ...LOL¬† ūü§°ūü§° .¬†

¬† ¬† True story¬† , I really mean it this time .¬† ¬†When I worked with my Brothers in New York¬† there was an older guy who had¬† one¬† really¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†Hi¬† ¬†Larious¬† ¬†!! Preference .¬† He was a simple kind of guy , nothing too complicated .¬† ¬†He lived nothing better than to have a young¬† or old or whatever¬† lady¬† (¬† or Not ) Fart in his Face¬† !!!¬† ¬†Not a bit embarrassed to fess up ..!! ūü§Įūüėą.

   That reminds me of something that I find disgusting since I got my Osto .   The noises  people make in a public bathroom's almost like  being in a room with people having sex ....embarrassing in that case .  

Nighty Night Y'all¬† ¬† ‚ėėūüíö


Mr Magoo your letting all your secrets out lol.¬† Has for the man who had a fetish for ladies tooting in his face there is something seriously wrong with him. I mean what if she ate Brussel sprouts, onion and cabbage ūü•¨ and let one rip jees I think she probably blow a hole in his face and the wall lol ūüėā. Seriously though there's that bloke on death row who liked his Mrs to poop ūüí© over him good god that's a bloody mess to clean up lol ūüėāūüėā XX


Hi Caz¬† ..ūü§óūüíö¬† ¬†I thought you might have been mad at me since I made a joke¬† ūüėĪ .¬† You know I Liv Ya¬† ¬†ūüíö

   Now that was Not me with the preference for  sniffing smelly  butts  ...Yuck !!   What if the far is one of those watery .."  SPLAT...!!   Right on the Shnoz

    I  guess We spend very little time in a public bathroom , airport , restaurany etc  we are in and out very fast , dump and run As I refer to it . Therefore we're nor sitting there having to listen to the grunts and groans , Farts  etc  so we wouldn't really hear those noises much anymore !?  The women's might be a bit quieter  in the women's ??  . I guess this is why I find it disgusting  to have to listen to !! . 

¬† ¬† ¬† Ok¬† ....Really True Story .¬† San Francisco¬† My Brother is an attorney and in the old days¬† I would sometimes go into City Hall and file paperwork¬† with the City Clerk .¬† .¬† One day it was clise to clising time so I ran into city hall¬† and hust got there as the clerk was closing . I needed to pee but I had to hold it until The thing was filed .¬† I ran to the¬† bathroom holding my peepee ...ūüėĪ so I wouldn't piss my pants .¬† I¬† finally get in there and let it go , what a relief¬† ....suddenly I hear these gutteral grunting noises and they get louder¬† by the second .¬† I figure this guy needs a good¬† cleaning out !!¬† Rotorooter¬† ¬†!!¬†

   This keeps on for way too long  and I think there's something wrong , maybe needs a doctor .  As I look under the door  I see two feet but not flat on the floor , the person is sitting or lying on the floor . Then the noise sarts up again 


Oops   hit the button ...

  So as I'm  looking the feet start moving strangely ....then Isee a Second  pair of feet  !!  The noises get louder and louder , one of the shoes comes flying out under the door .,  zipper being undone ....noises change ....OK  ...I finally know what's going on here  !!   As I walk out the door cracking up the passionate moaning begins .  

Whoever it was ...they were having a lot of fun in there , it was pretty small but they didn't seem to mind .  . 

Heavy breathing   continues  lol ....

You see and hear some steange things in San Francisco ...just stabding around minding your own business or just taking a piss  ! 



Yes but Mr Magoo he might have got his winky stuck in his zip and someone has come to help them lol ūüėā XX

Reply to tiff041

Oh there are so many out there for you, I promise!! ūüėČ Just keep looking! ūü§ó


Lol !!! ūüėĪūüėĪūüėĪ...¬† so that's the other reason for wearing those short¬† Wellies¬† !!!¬† ¬†BAAAAAAAaaa¬† lol . I get a shiver of horror¬† down my spine when I think about it !!!¬† ¬† I'm Not going to look it up but there is a really¬† weird one¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†" Coprophile "¬† ¬†, something like that .¬†

   On the serious side . If the surgical connection of your intestine to the outside  is damaged you  will be in Hell !!!   A Fistula  at the Stoma will wreck your life .  A friend online sent a pic of  a badly sutured connection and a hole grew beside the Stoma , then annother , then flesh eating bacteria. They scooped out a hole like an ice cream   scoop . 

If yiur lucky enough to have a working Stoma then leave it alone do Not  Ffff   it up  , be very thankful .and take care of it .

My friend's  Doc messed up .  She did everything right .

Eamon .‚ėė

Reply to Panko

Probably only got a tiny winky that's why they have to resort to putting it in a stoma lol ūüėā XX

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