Ok here's my dilemma

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Gus
I had surgery on the 23rd of June. it went badlt afoter popping another parastmal hernia the day after having the others repaired. Since the surgery I have had sharp stinign pain around the base of my stoma, a weeping sinus open up and i have an extremely sore lump on my abdomen that feels like it may turn into another weeping sinus. Right then, My surgeon is away till the 27th of August and I really need to get it checked urgently. Do IA, see my GP who really doesn't have much of a clue about stomas.; B, go to the emergency and have them assess it even though i hate taking up their time. or C, wait till my surgeon returns. I have got a f***ing clue what to do at the moment.
Past Member
I don't know how your ER's are in the hospital, but I would go to the GP. He/she may not know much, but should be able to refer you to someone who does and in short time. It is better than sitting for an eternity in the ER only to be seen by a non specialist who is just an ER physician nyway.
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Pinky
Hi Gus - recently when I ws hemmorhaging from my stoma, and my surgeon was unavailable, I finally went to the ER - they admitted me right away when I told them the story (plus I was pale from so much blood lost). Well, my PCP ended up taking care of me anyway in the hospital and he did an excellent job - and I didn't think he had a clue about stomas either! So go for whatever will help you more quickly! And I'm sorry you are having such a hard time after surgery
Jojoslife
Hey Gus
got no help to offer you, just want you to know i have my fingers crossed you get through this quickly
weewee
i would have to agree sometimes if you wait to long you can make things worse and if they tell you to wait its on them and then you can open a whole can of whoop ass
 
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lottagelady
I know my GP has no clue whatsoever about stomas - at least if you go to the ER they will put you in touch with a surgical team - might not be your own, but they may be able to point you in the right direction ..... sounds horrible, so best of luck in getting it dealt with Gus....
Rach xxx
mooza
Do you have a stoma nurse? My stoma nurse was so good any problems and i went to her or my specialist but the stn 'was so much help in getting me an appointment in the outpatients clinic and also in a public hospital here in Australia .So i would conyact my S,T.N hope this helps. mooza
swiffer
I would have been in the ER by now. I can not say it any planer Gus. You need help! Go for it.
Gus
Well I'm not religous in any way and have no time for formal religions as such. Yet a lovely muslim lady in my Chemistry clas at Uni put it into a nice perspective. What we suffer here on earth helps to make to whats called heaven. Sort of we do bad we get sick. kinda cancles out any nastyness we may have done. Only problem is I can't remember when I was so friggin bad lol... but if you were inclined to believe in such things it would give someone a hope of better things. As for me i,ll just suffer along hoping my passage through life helps someone else and makes their lives richer for it.
lottagelady
I sometimes think the same thing - why me? What on earth have I done to deserve all this?

I was once told that in a previous life I wasn't a very nice person and was murdered - apparently from Bristol UK area and to do with money - possibly shipping/slavery ....... I really don't know whether or not I believe in all that stuff - but if that is the case .... I AM SORRY BUT THAT ISN'T ME!!!!!
three
Hi Gus and everyone else,

You all help so much just by sharing what you are going through THANKS!
swiffer
We can all forget that mumbo gumbo about past lives and did something wrong so we are being punished . I am religious as a catholic and i have studied other forms or religion and have never came across any thing like that. It may be hereditary or a man made thing that causes some of our problems but not something a human thinks a god did to us. I have done things i am not proud of but my grand mother also had what i have and i can say with out a doubt she never did anything to deserve colon problems. Now i am upset that someone would tell Gus or lottagelady something like that. Those kind of people should keep there thoughts to themselves and pray their god did not hear them. Rant,Rant ,rave,Rant ,Rant rave. Ok i am now done ranting and raveing. So it is some nice weather we are having is,nt it.
lottagelady
Aww .... bless you Swiffer xxxxxxxxxxxx
Pinky
You said it, Swiffer - my sentiments exactly about religious kooks who want to blame the suffering person for bad past deeds. Mormons tried to tell me I gave myself cancer. The examples I always think of are Christopher Reeve and his wife. They were two of the greatest folks on the planet. And anyway, if you were bad in a past life you come back as a newt or a toad or something, right?

And gus, it's time to get this taken care of, since it's Friday down there...if any more time goes by you will have to go the ER! Decision made! ;
Past Member
Pinky, I am sorry that any Cult Religion told you anything and I believe as you Mormons are a Non Christian Religion, They read out of a Book that is written by a man named Joseph Smith who studied through glass and was killed in Illinois, also him and his father were Shriners. They believe Jesus and Satan are Spiratual brothers, I dont care who practices this but it isnt someting a Christian needs to believe. Not one who only goes by the word of God. Sorry to upset you on Christopher Reeves but he was a Scientologist and they dont believe in any God. I know a lot about Theology as it is something I did study. I thought he was a good person, I also like Travolta but he is also a Scientologist and several in Hollywood, they believe in UFO's and deeper and not Psychiatrist for any reason, but plastic surgery is just fine for them. Pinky Just go by the Christian Bible and love the Lord and be kind to people like you are, you are such a good person. I think the world of you and it means so much to me when you are good to my friend Jo jo who is also alot stronger than I could ever be. Thank you for being so kind to so many Pinky, Like Swiffer the Lord knows your hearts and how kind you are. If you want to know about Reeves and his Scientology life, Just Google Scientology and put in Hollywood people and his name will come up and some that might shock you, God Bless You Pinky, Son is coming in on the Plane in a bit, Love Jenny
beyondpar
Swiffer,
YOu are a welcome addtion to this site. I love hearing and reading your words and can feel your sarcasm at times and the input is dead on.Keep it coming...Michael
Gus
now i didn't mean for you lot to go off like 2 bob watches about religious themes and shit. I was just sayin that it would be nice to know that some things we suffer get us to a better place one, what ever you wanna call it.Any way this thread is about me, me ,me lmao, and don't you forget. My second sinus burst tonight, with shit and shrapnel flyin everywhere. Well maybe not that but some really funky coloured liquid, anyway My mrs has said if it looks worse in da mornin she is taking me to the hospital to get it checked, phew another decision I dun have to make ,lol, thank you all for your kind words and anti whatever ramblings, kinda fun watching a post go way off topic even if it is about me
swiffer
Gus ,it is called Hijacking the tread. Sorry about that . To get back to you. Hope you have decided to go and get checked out. Like most have said these things seem to get out of control fast . I know from some motorcycle sites i am on you Aussies are tough and don't want anyone do anything for you that you can not do yourself but this is a bit different. Got to get the hospital to look inside you for the answers. Not surgery, I mean non invasive test,s. Of course thats is just this mans opinion and my kids would tell you i am not always right.
beyondpar
Gus,

You are right, this thread was hijacked . ..LMAO...........YOu obviously touched a nerve in many..........

Back to you now, Get yourself checked and fixed....I hear all the issues and get concerned.......we must be our own advocate, as the doctors will in my opinion let us whither away if we just listened to them........So stay positive and active in your own recovery.Will be thinking of you .....Michael
beatrice
I'm another who doesn't have a clue about the medical system in Australia ... but my vote is for the ER. Hope you're there already, Gus.

Thinking of you,
Beatrice
Gus
Weelllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll, I'm not at the hospital yet. I have found some little dressing things to cover me holes and the pain is good today. As swifter said we bikers here are a tough breed and I will get it sorted. I just have an assignment to finish today for ancient history then study for a chem exam in a weeks time. I,m not a saint. I am farther from being one than most. My aim in life is to pass through it and leave an indelible mark on this world in peoples lives that makes them feel better about themselves. My pain and illness is neither here nor there. I felt the need to vent it and get some advice and thank you all for it.

I think there are a few here who remember my tirade against a rude and indecent person making lewd comments and my response to that person was swift, sharp and extremely colourful. So my saint hood is in tatters but I dont care. I will always defend the least strong, the decent, the ll and the infirm. I would lay my life down for my wife and family and I will attack and destroy anyone that hurts anyone clse to me. But I am understanding of anyone suffering as you can see and I will try and make their lives more enjoyable even if I can't do anything else

So that said, I am me and if peeps don't like me then they can go annoy someone else. Me I,ll just annoy the crap out of everyone hehehe
lottagelady
Oh yes - our Gus is definitely sounding not so bad today!

Glad to hear it mate xxxxx ....

Thought I was off to the ER earlier for one of my 'malfunctioning ileostomy' trips - but doubled my dose of Buscopan and Metaclopramide and touch wood it has settled down ..... will see if it gets me thru the night!
Mike
If we all get to some sort of afterlife, does that mean we will NOT have Stomas?
lottagelady
Presumably not if I come back as a slug!
Gus
Or a cockroach, would be funny seeing one draggin a bag around hehehe
lottagelady
Think if I had a choice I would come back as my Basset Hound ..... Thats the life! xxx
Pinky
This has been one of the best posts in a long time...even if it was hi-jacked from you, Gus. As for me, I like you...I like your straightforward approach. I like Swiffer's sense of humor and photos of frogs legs. I like beyondpar's unfailing optimism. I like Rach's sweetness and light. I like Jenny's stream of consciousness writing. I liked Mike's comment on the afterlife.

There, that should provide me with enough good karma for the day, that should I die, I won't come back as a slug with a colostomy.

Gus, glad to hear you are hanging in there and that your wife is keeping a close eye.
swiffer
Ok if by a slim chance {i am just saying} we do come back i want to be a little fluffy rabbit so you gals will snuggle me. Might as well dream good dreams. Oh and Gus i hope you are better today.
Past Member
Swiffer, I want to come back as Cupid and shoot you all in the ass to show you guy's the women are lonely also. Heck geoff found someone after Posting his Romeo site here and he met someone in another place. But my friend tine would of talked to him, Swiffer women arent looking for Rock Hudson, we are looking for Honesty and Kindness and you have those qualities, I think you would get more hit's on a dating Post than geoff did, I like the guy but you have shown more character and kindness on here than most. So I think you would get some good hit's and since you ride like the wind maybe you could meet someone with an Ostomy that is in the US and ride your days together as you age and get better as I am planning to do. Good Luck Swiffer but please dont come back as a Bunny and yea they are cute, but stink like heck, plus they shit more than we do, Love always Jenny
PS. If it dont work out then you can blame me, it was my Idea, cause your a Lovely man.
beyondpar
There you go again Jenny, wanting to shoot us guys in the ass,LMAO .

We will never be perfect us guys, but wanting to shoot us in the ass?.LOL

.......I think when we all can figure it out, that we are all sooooooo imperfect, yet good, sooooooo unable to really communicate our thoughts correctly and have them be recieved in the way they were intended but trying all the way, the sooner we all will realize that time is fleeting and going ever so fast and the sooner we can get back to being the loving creatures we are destined to be from birth.

Funny for me , but the stoma has shown me this....Go figure.......That which i thought and fought for 24 years not to get, has helped me in more ways than anyone will ever know.

Anyway just another hijacked thread off on a tangent.....couldnt help it..Sorry Gus.this was your thread.......Hey and thanks to all the birthday wishes I received this past week....Love Michael