Rising from Ashes: My Journey with an Ostomy and Seeking Advice

The Phoenix is a mythical bird that rises from the ashes of despair and disease, from the fate of disability and death, and begins life anew. The phoenix was considered to be a firebird which could regenerate itself when hurt or injured and was invincible. Some (if not all) ostomy associations use the phoenix as its symbol and mantra.

I use the phoenix here because I was only a few hours from death when I had my surgery and colostomy. I had a perforated colon in two places and the hospital I was in didn't know, although they were checking me for this. I transferred to a better hospital and much better doctor, and 10 days after my first perforation, I was in the O.R. having my life saved.

I would be very interested in hearing from anyone that had a similar situation. Please drop me a line.

Living with an ostomy is an adjustment, if not constant, and a challenge no matter how long we have lived with one. There will always be situations that we hadn't planned for or anticipated, but we find the strength to maneuver through all of life's challenges.

I have had my colostomy since 1991 and have been separated (single) for 8 months. All of a sudden, I have this huge challenge of dating with an ostomy and I am honestly scared ****less!

Any advice anyone can give, drop me a line.

Thanks for reading and keep well!

Gail

I can totally relate to you. I have had a colostomy since 2004. My wife left me over the device, which was hard to get over and still is. I know it's hard and scares the hell out of me too. I hate being alone and like having friends to talk to. I pray a lot and hope things will change for the better. If you want to talk, just let me know... God bless, Michael.