My recent post on Facebook:
Many people have asked me about sex since I received my ileostomy. While I think it's kind of funny, it seems fair that people are curious. So here I am to answer.
Having sex with a bag is the same as having sex without one. Men and women with a bag can perform exactly like anyone else. It's similar to having sex with a cast on. It might get in the way a bit, but it's not something that should eliminate sex. If you wouldn't have sex with someone with a cast, you're an asshole. I figure it's about the same for someone with a bag.
A thin woman recently said to me, "Oh my God. I can't imagine how self-conscious you must be. I mean, I've gained weight, and I don't want to have sex." That got me to thinking. I've never been skinny at any point in my life. I have never been in a situation where I thought to myself, "I'm going to wow her with my stomach!" My stomach has never been, nor will it ever be, a girl-getter. Whose stomach really is though, unless you're The Situation...? My point is, everybody has insecurities with their bodies, and this is just another.
My mother will probably be mad at me for writing this, but I want to answer the questions. If we don't talk about it, how will we ever know?
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