Feeling Nervous About Dating After Surgery: Need Advice

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sabreeze35
Nov 19, 2023 12:52 pm

Hey there, so it's been over a year since I had my surgery. I'm feeling and doing well.๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฝ.ย 

I'm ready to start dating and exploring ๐Ÿ˜†.

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I'm soooooooo nervous about revealing my new gorgeous body and my attachment.. I always back out, so what should I do, and how Are some ways to get over my being uncomfortable..

Riva
Nov 19, 2023 4:46 pm

Hi. ย  ย Donโ€™t let having a pouch define whom you are. ย Go for it and ENJOY โ˜บ๏ธย 

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Ben38
Nov 19, 2023 4:51 pm

Only one way in my view be up front from the start and say you have one as I see it 'Take me as I am or watch me as I go'.

Let them know it doesn't stop you from doing anything, usual comment's I used to get was I won't jump up and down on your stomach I always laughed and said you better jump on itย  woman! lol use some humour make it light hearted to put them at at ease to as you might be the first person they know that has a stoma.

I think you will be pleasantly surprised most people won't be bothered about it. I've had a ileostomy over 30 years it was never a problem in any new relationship.ย 

Beachboy
Nov 19, 2023 8:23 pm

Yes.ย  Be upfront about it.ย  A stoma does not define us.ย  Everyone at my work is fascinated by it.ย  I've shown it to many of em.ย  They can't believe the red thingy in the bag is my intestine.

Good luck

AlexT
Nov 20, 2023 12:51 am

you go about it just like before getting your attachment, then just be honest and upfront.ย 

 
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Past Member
Nov 21, 2023 8:37 pm

Well start with chatting with me,and take the pressure off.

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