Hi, this question is kind of personal and embarrassing. But I am going to throw it out there anyway. Back in June, I had to have an abdominal perineal resection, which is the removal of the rectum and anus along with a permanent colostomy. The problem is that ever since the surgery, I have experienced painful intercourse to the point that I dread it. I have tried lubes, but it doesn't work. It seems like there is a connection between the surgery and the problem. It feels like when they sewed up my back end during surgery, half my other opening got sewn up as well. I know that is not the case. Have any of you other women experienced the same thing?
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