Hi, this question is kind of personal and embarrassing. But I am going to throw it out there anyway. Back in June, I had to have an abdominal perineal resection, which is the removal of the rectum and anus along with a permanent colostomy. The problem is that ever since the surgery, I have experienced painful intercourse to the point that I dread it. I have tried lubes, but it doesn't work. It seems like there is a connection between the surgery and the problem. It feels like when they sewed up my back end during surgery, half my other opening got sewn up as well. I know that is not the case. Have any of you other women experienced the same thing?

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MEETANOSTOMATE REVIEW.
I’d like to write a nice review
that might express something quite new.
Then I read previous points of view,
which said the things I wanted to.
I would endorse the things I’ve read
about what other folks have said,
for these are the benefits and things
that joining a site like this can bring.
When I was an initiate, (novice)
it seemed to be appropriate
to express myself in rhyme
as this is how I spend my time.
When contemplating what to write
with contributing to this site,
it seemed to me, my ostomy
could be expressed in poetry.
Thus, when I had something to say,
a rhyme, for me seemed the best way,
for rhymes can often capture stuff
that prose don’t capture quite enough.
I do appreciate the way,
this site lets people have their say
in whatever mode they will
about the things that make them ill.
There are not many forums for
discussing stuff most folks abhor.
So, this site fulfils a small niche,
where angst and problems can unleash.
Where raw emotions can decant,
so, folks feel free to have a rant,
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