I'm a mother of a 5 and 6-year-old, and I got my ileostomy two years ago. They are starting to wonder why mommy goes to poop in a bag. I don't know how I would tell them or if I should show them my stoma because I think they would get scared. I tell them mama needs a bag because my body doesn't work right and I have a disease, but then my 6-year-old asked how the poop comes out. All I say is, "It's confusing now, and I'll tell you when you're older." My 5-year-old even said, "I don't like how you go poop." It made me cry, even though I know she wasn't being malicious. My husband hasn't even seen my stoma. I just don't know how to go about telling them or if I should even show them the stoma. What do other people do?

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