P.S. If I weren't gay, I'd ask you out on a date! Honest!
|Dating with an ostomy pouch can be difficult. If you're like me and also have Herpes, good luck, you're gonna need it!|
I want dating with you lol
Even though I am older, I longed for a relationship. I dated and even had a proposal of marriage. But, in my case...I decided I liked my freedom. My choice!
I have a descending colostomy because of Crohn's, and because of multiple small bowel resections...I have only three feet of small intestine remaining. (I understand the normal person has about 28 feet!) So, I have what is known as short-gut syndrome. My remaining 3 ft. has active Crohn's, and I get malnourished very easily. To keep me going, they implanted a PEG feeding tube in my abdomen through which I get nourishment. So, I not only have a bag, but also a tube in the middle of my tummy...a bionic woman of sorts. I am a cheap date...can't eat much at a restaurant.
In 2001 I developed uterine cancer which resulted in a ten-hour operation because of all the adhesions from previous intestinal surgeries. They had to remove some of my vagina. So, even if I had a relationship...it would have to be with an elderly midget. Most of those from "Wizard of Oz" have died off.
So, like Derby, I am just thankful to be here. There truly are people so much worse off in this world. I am thankful to be alive and to be able to enjoy my sons, granddaughters, friends, etc.
Life deals you a deck of cards...you have no choice in that. But, it is your choice as to how you play the game of life. You will find someone...if that is your desire. It might be a bit more challenging, but I have friends in the same boat for whom that has happened!
If I were dating again, I'd probably use an internet site like Match.com (I met my wife that way eight years ago) and I'd be very upfront for both. That way you don't waste your time on dates only to be rejected later. If someone goes agrees to go on a date, they already know up front.
|and I know I need to start realizing it's true when one says "God never gives you more than you can handle". I need to start letting those many words of wisdom and love into my life and be thankful for what I DO have.|
Well said, Skidder!
Thanks, everyone, for your words of encouragement!