Hi everyone, I'm still learning how to navigate around this site. I've actually never been very active with online support, or any support for that matter. I've always dealt with chronic illness by putting on a brave face and a smile, but after 40 years, I'm spent, so here I am. I'm pretty reserved and quiet around people I don't know. I've had an ileostomy for six years (and still hate the little f***er). Diagnosed with UC in 1976. J-pouch in 1999 after years of being steroid dependent and horrible flare-ups. Chronic pouchitis until emergency surgery in 2007 for pelvic abscesses. The UC is "cured," but then there is a whole different set of issues to deal with. In spite of all that, I have met a lot of my goals over the past 40 years. I have 2 children and a small grandson who is the greatest love of my life. I was a healthcare worker for 20 years but have been unable to work for the past year. Frequent obstructions and high output are keeping me close to home. I guess I'm looking for a new purpose, a way to reinvent myself, but I'm not sure what I want to be when I grow up, or what I can be. Time to reach out. Anyway, just want to connect with others who have traveled the same road. Share some laughs, maybe a few tears.
Is swearing allowed on this site? I swear. A lot. Only around grown-ups though.
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