OK. So here's the deal. I've had an ileostomy for about 5 years and considering that I've had 9 surgeries in 4 years, I think I have a pretty good body image. Now I have unexpectedly found myself in a caring and committed relationship with a very supportive man, but it's new. Usually when I have sex, I tape my pouch (which is already the smaller "midi" type) up out of the way, and I use Coloplast's elastic barrier strips for extra security. This works well for me, and I don't cover myself anymore. When I've gone swimming, I do something similar along with using an ostomy belt, and I have a great swimsuit with a lot of extra support around the waist and ruching on that side that really helps hold it and cover it. My issue is this--my boyfriend and I have a romantic getaway planned for the weekend of Feb. 23rd, and the resort condo we're staying in has a fireplace and jacuzzi. He is really psyched about it, and so am I, except that I have never gone in a jacuzzi with my ileostomy naked. I feel a lot less secure about it. My swimsuit has always held the pouch in place along with the tape. Any ideas? I don't want to ruin the mood, and I don't want to be worried about it the whole time.

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