Hi,
I feel like it would be easier to date someone who can understand where you are coming from health-wise. I had an ostomy and now have a j-pouch, so I know both sides.
I live in Las Vegas and there seem to be no young people who live here with the same medical issues as I have.
Ty
Hey there Ty!
I totally get where you are coming from. I feel the same even though I have been incredibly lucky with the guys in my life thus far. My ostomy has not been an issue on any level in any of the past relationships I've had. I can't imagine what it's like for people who have actually had horrible experiences with judgmental people. Just know there ARE people out there who do not care!! Or even better, people who do care, but in a positive way! Think about the situation reversed, I'm sure you'd be kind and understanding to others in your situation? Anyway, I don't have the premium version or full access or whatever to this site, but I'd love to ask you some weird personal questions... haha gosh that sounds so creepy. But I am in the transition right now of getting a J-pouch. I've had my ostomy for two years, and just this January had the first step surgery to create my J-pouch. I have my stoma take down final surgery sometime in the beginning of May. I can't wait to not have to deal with ostomy pouch products, but I'm nervous about all the changes again! I know I'll make it work, getting my ostomy was not a planned thing, so having time to think about this is almost worse! I have so many questions. Anyway, if you're open to talking and maybe sharing a little of your experience, I'd really love to! I think maybe you can just reply here? Again, not super sure how this site works messaging-wise...
Thanks!
And, P.S. you'll do great with relationships! Don't worry :)
-Savannah
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iMacG5
When I found this web site, I didn't think its name had anything to do with actually meeting an ostomate but I later learned there were some folks who did meet and develop relationships. How good is that? That wasn't my intention. I definitely didn't want anyone to meet me. I felt broken and wasn't prepared to express those feelings. I thought it was a place where ostomates wrote about themselves, posed questions, shared thoughts, told jokes and, sometimes, just vented. I thought of it as a community of folks with similar interests and various degrees of experience. Mostly I found some of the most caring, selfless, wise and understanding people I ever imagined. I was so impressed with some of the writings; not because of their literary value but the way in which they addressed such a very complex environment. I read hundreds of exchanges and admired the way folks cared for each other. I became hopeful with my own situation and looked forward to the next day's offerings. Certainly some contributors stood out with their experience or particular skills in addressing some things but it seemed like a total effort with synergistic results. I felt blessed to have found this site. I still do.
Mike